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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 487566" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi there, I think I joined after you were last here, so sorry I am not caught up.</p><p></p><p>Sounds like your son has more than just being spoiled, kids dont just "not pay attention" on purpose and choose not to learn on purpose at that age. (well I am sure there is the very rare child) but his developing all these "coping" mechanisms to fix his own world and get what he wants through negative means, usually means he does not have the skills to do better. </p><p></p><p>Has he had an evaluation of any kind? Do you have insurance? Can you take him to a neuropsychologist for a neuropsychologist evaluation? I can tell you personally, that there is nothing worse than looking back and finding out that you missed something that could have made a world of difference. If you find it is all environment, being spoiled, etc... that is fine, then there is still a problem and you need to have it addressed professionally, just handling it through discipline will not really fully work. It certainly DOES make a difference to have the adults on the same page. The longer you let a behavior go on before the consequence (or if you give in... the reward) the longer it will happen each time..... They develop internal clocks and know they can keep it up. Believe me, I have left FULL carts of groceries and bags of things I wanted to buy and walked out of a store with my son. I dont care how loud he got, no way he was going to get anything when he acted like that and he often had legitimate medical reasons for his meltdowns but I was not taking the chance that it would become a voluntary behavior (which has happened for some things) because he doesnt know about the medical part, he just knows how he feels and how he is trying to survive in this world. </p><p></p><p>Just some thoughts, Sounds like you are doing this alone and with people who are not fully supporting your desire to change parenting styles so I feel for you. As one mom to another with a child who has violent rages, please seek every ave. now because they often dont grow out of it,but they do GROW and even if mentally at a younger age emotionally, they are looked at as thugs and many folks do not understand. Plus the obvious, they CAN do damage, serious damage. </p><p></p><p>My thoughts and care are with you.... luv, Buddy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 487566, member: 12886"] Hi there, I think I joined after you were last here, so sorry I am not caught up. Sounds like your son has more than just being spoiled, kids dont just "not pay attention" on purpose and choose not to learn on purpose at that age. (well I am sure there is the very rare child) but his developing all these "coping" mechanisms to fix his own world and get what he wants through negative means, usually means he does not have the skills to do better. Has he had an evaluation of any kind? Do you have insurance? Can you take him to a neuropsychologist for a neuropsychologist evaluation? I can tell you personally, that there is nothing worse than looking back and finding out that you missed something that could have made a world of difference. If you find it is all environment, being spoiled, etc... that is fine, then there is still a problem and you need to have it addressed professionally, just handling it through discipline will not really fully work. It certainly DOES make a difference to have the adults on the same page. The longer you let a behavior go on before the consequence (or if you give in... the reward) the longer it will happen each time..... They develop internal clocks and know they can keep it up. Believe me, I have left FULL carts of groceries and bags of things I wanted to buy and walked out of a store with my son. I dont care how loud he got, no way he was going to get anything when he acted like that and he often had legitimate medical reasons for his meltdowns but I was not taking the chance that it would become a voluntary behavior (which has happened for some things) because he doesnt know about the medical part, he just knows how he feels and how he is trying to survive in this world. Just some thoughts, Sounds like you are doing this alone and with people who are not fully supporting your desire to change parenting styles so I feel for you. As one mom to another with a child who has violent rages, please seek every ave. now because they often dont grow out of it,but they do GROW and even if mentally at a younger age emotionally, they are looked at as thugs and many folks do not understand. Plus the obvious, they CAN do damage, serious damage. My thoughts and care are with you.... luv, Buddy [/QUOTE]
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