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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 487707" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I agree that he needs another evaluation and my pick is a neuropsychologist. Maybe he saw the pediatrician...they can not assess good/bad parenting vs. a disorder. It is probably some disorder. Even spoiled kids can behave and learn. He doesn't sound happy...that's the main thing. We all want our little peeps to be happy, and I know you do too. I would not feel guilty. None of this is your fault. You are getting bad advice and it sounds like perhaps a therapist (like maybe a social worker) or a teacher or somebody else who is not qualified to diagnose is telling you that all would be well if you could just modify your parenting. We have probably all heard this, but most of us have moved on as we realize that it isn't us...it's the kids themselves who are not responding as other kids do to normal discipline. I am NOT a fan of behavior therapists as in my opinion they are the worst offenders of this. Then when their ideas fail, again, they blame us. And we blame ourselves.</p><p></p><p>A lot of kids who are troublesome at home behave in school, which makes us look like the offenders. They can maintain to a point, but then they get home and, after holding the stress and hype in all day, they REALLY let it go on the ones who love them the most...the ones they know will accept them no matter what. Unfortunately, often school behavior becomes a problem after a while too. Your sweet little guy needs help and nobody should expect you to be able to do it yourself. It's not fair.</p><p></p><p>It is up to you, but sounds like his bio. dad had some serious issues and these are often inherited. Even if he never sees his bio. dad, he has his genes. </p><p></p><p>Keep us posted and let us know how he is doing and what you decide to do <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 487707, member: 1550"] I agree that he needs another evaluation and my pick is a neuropsychologist. Maybe he saw the pediatrician...they can not assess good/bad parenting vs. a disorder. It is probably some disorder. Even spoiled kids can behave and learn. He doesn't sound happy...that's the main thing. We all want our little peeps to be happy, and I know you do too. I would not feel guilty. None of this is your fault. You are getting bad advice and it sounds like perhaps a therapist (like maybe a social worker) or a teacher or somebody else who is not qualified to diagnose is telling you that all would be well if you could just modify your parenting. We have probably all heard this, but most of us have moved on as we realize that it isn't us...it's the kids themselves who are not responding as other kids do to normal discipline. I am NOT a fan of behavior therapists as in my opinion they are the worst offenders of this. Then when their ideas fail, again, they blame us. And we blame ourselves. A lot of kids who are troublesome at home behave in school, which makes us look like the offenders. They can maintain to a point, but then they get home and, after holding the stress and hype in all day, they REALLY let it go on the ones who love them the most...the ones they know will accept them no matter what. Unfortunately, often school behavior becomes a problem after a while too. Your sweet little guy needs help and nobody should expect you to be able to do it yourself. It's not fair. It is up to you, but sounds like his bio. dad had some serious issues and these are often inherited. Even if he never sees his bio. dad, he has his genes. Keep us posted and let us know how he is doing and what you decide to do :) [/QUOTE]
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