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Did raising a difficult child completely skew your emotional reponses?
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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 484672"><p>I had only 14 months of living with a difficult child (which is why I only rarely post here anymore--my experience is so slight, compared to everyone else's), but it definitely had a strong effect on me behaviorally: I learned to suppress most of my emotional responses (so as not to further inflame difficult child's inclination toward rages) and to fall into step with the general policy/atmosphere of denial and "nothing wrong here" in my sister's home. When I finally left, I was amazed (especially in hindsight now) at how much pent-up anger, and even fury, I had stored away, which began to leak out all over the place for well over half a year before it began to subside. For me, by far the largest effect on me was the suppressed anger that built up within me due to having to rein in my natural responses (of fury and contempt at being so verbally and sometimes physically abused) while around difficult child. I think in some ways that's the worst consequence of a difficult child's misbehaviors: the effects on the psychological well-being of the people around him/her. difficult child can hurt himself all he likes--at the end of the day, he reaps what he sews and gets what's coming to him, which is only just. But the effect of his shenanigans on the well-being of others, especially family members, is truly shocking and saddening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 484672"] I had only 14 months of living with a difficult child (which is why I only rarely post here anymore--my experience is so slight, compared to everyone else's), but it definitely had a strong effect on me behaviorally: I learned to suppress most of my emotional responses (so as not to further inflame difficult child's inclination toward rages) and to fall into step with the general policy/atmosphere of denial and "nothing wrong here" in my sister's home. When I finally left, I was amazed (especially in hindsight now) at how much pent-up anger, and even fury, I had stored away, which began to leak out all over the place for well over half a year before it began to subside. For me, by far the largest effect on me was the suppressed anger that built up within me due to having to rein in my natural responses (of fury and contempt at being so verbally and sometimes physically abused) while around difficult child. I think in some ways that's the worst consequence of a difficult child's misbehaviors: the effects on the psychological well-being of the people around him/her. difficult child can hurt himself all he likes--at the end of the day, he reaps what he sews and gets what's coming to him, which is only just. But the effect of his shenanigans on the well-being of others, especially family members, is truly shocking and saddening. [/QUOTE]
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