Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Did raising a difficult child completely skew your emotional reponses?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 485180" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>My family Foo and extended family is difficult child-free. I had one nephew who went through a rebellion at 17 and dropped out of HS and started using drugs. He got the tough love boot, and straighened his life out pretty darned fast. He is as close as I've gotten ...and he isn't a difficult child. This is a strange, new world to me. Adaptation has not come naturally.</p><p></p><p>I had to work like heck for any semblence of neutrality. I've been on a rollercoaster of skewed responses.</p><p></p><p>How has it changed me? It's made me more compassionate. I no longer sigh at the antics of what I now know to be difficult children and wonder why the parents just don't "do something". Conversely, when I get that response I try to remember how it was to be on the outside looking in with unintentional judgement.</p><p></p><p>Three year ago, you would have had to pick me up off the floor in response to some of my difficult children situations, and in a great deal of what I've read here ... now I just put it in my mental difficult child box and go on.</p><p></p><p>Small victories are huge.</p><p></p><p>Most things that used to matter don't. Wish I'd known they never did.</p><p></p><p>The expression "it could be worse" alternately infuriates me and causes me to nod inwardly and say "yep". </p><p></p><p>I've been forced to give up my Polyanna ways.</p><p></p><p>I refer to my epidermis and my rhinocepidermis..</p><p></p><p>I forgive far more easily because I know how fragile and uncertain tomorrow really is.</p><p></p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 485180, member: 9175"] My family Foo and extended family is difficult child-free. I had one nephew who went through a rebellion at 17 and dropped out of HS and started using drugs. He got the tough love boot, and straighened his life out pretty darned fast. He is as close as I've gotten ...and he isn't a difficult child. This is a strange, new world to me. Adaptation has not come naturally. I had to work like heck for any semblence of neutrality. I've been on a rollercoaster of skewed responses. How has it changed me? It's made me more compassionate. I no longer sigh at the antics of what I now know to be difficult children and wonder why the parents just don't "do something". Conversely, when I get that response I try to remember how it was to be on the outside looking in with unintentional judgement. Three year ago, you would have had to pick me up off the floor in response to some of my difficult children situations, and in a great deal of what I've read here ... now I just put it in my mental difficult child box and go on. Small victories are huge. Most things that used to matter don't. Wish I'd known they never did. The expression "it could be worse" alternately infuriates me and causes me to nod inwardly and say "yep". I've been forced to give up my Polyanna ways. I refer to my epidermis and my rhinocepidermis.. I forgive far more easily because I know how fragile and uncertain tomorrow really is. Dash [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Did raising a difficult child completely skew your emotional reponses?
Top