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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 214717" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>I didn't watch the show last night as I wasn't home but I live in Nebraska so the debate has been in the news a lot here lately. There were several lawmakers and others here who did say that they thought the way the law was written was not such a bad thing; ALL kids could benefit from this. However, that was not really the purpose of them passing this particular law and they did amend it to make it for babies up to 30 days. They appointed a committee/task force/whatever (I forget the exact term they used) to study what needs to be done for older kids when the legislature reconvenes. This was a special session of our legislature, called just to deal with only this issue. At first, they were going to let it go till the regular session but with so many out-of-state kids being left here, it became apparent that something needed to be done. It was interesting that one of the TV stations here had a poll (very unscientific) about whether they should make some provision for older kids and almost 70&#37; of the people voted "yes."</p><p> </p><p>As the parent of a kid who had severe emotional and behavioral issues when he was a teen, and somebody who tried to deal within the system, I know the frustration we feel. Would I have dropped my older difficult child off if this law had been available then? I like to think not but, honestly, it might have been an option. There were times when I went to bed at night that I was afraid he'd come in and kill me in the middle of the night. What options does that leave?</p><p> </p><p>I think a lot of the misunderstanding from the general public comes because, unless you've dealt with a child like this, you have no idea what the problems are. For a "normal" child some of what your husband says may be valid. I am of the generation who got taken behind the woodshed and I believe it was good for me (I'm definitely not talking about beating your kids; I'm talking about a swat on the bottom once in a blue moon) but if I had done that with my kid, who had a chemical imbalance in his brain, it would have done nothing but make him worse. And for "normal" kids, dealing with pressures and frustrations probably did make us stronger, but if you have problems to begin with, it can send you completely over the edge, never to return. As somebody who taught in our public schools, I think he's right about kids being overmedicated. There is a tendency right now to push a pill at any kids who seems outside the norm in any way and I find that a tragedy. But for the kids who need it, it is a godsend. Our society wants easy answers that are black and white. They don't seem to be able to understand that one size does not fit all, or even most, and that a lot of these issues are more complicated than they can imagine.</p><p> </p><p>I hope our legislature comes back into session and does something brilliant, but, after all, they are politicians so what can we expect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 214717, member: 135"] I didn't watch the show last night as I wasn't home but I live in Nebraska so the debate has been in the news a lot here lately. There were several lawmakers and others here who did say that they thought the way the law was written was not such a bad thing; ALL kids could benefit from this. However, that was not really the purpose of them passing this particular law and they did amend it to make it for babies up to 30 days. They appointed a committee/task force/whatever (I forget the exact term they used) to study what needs to be done for older kids when the legislature reconvenes. This was a special session of our legislature, called just to deal with only this issue. At first, they were going to let it go till the regular session but with so many out-of-state kids being left here, it became apparent that something needed to be done. It was interesting that one of the TV stations here had a poll (very unscientific) about whether they should make some provision for older kids and almost 70% of the people voted "yes." As the parent of a kid who had severe emotional and behavioral issues when he was a teen, and somebody who tried to deal within the system, I know the frustration we feel. Would I have dropped my older difficult child off if this law had been available then? I like to think not but, honestly, it might have been an option. There were times when I went to bed at night that I was afraid he'd come in and kill me in the middle of the night. What options does that leave? I think a lot of the misunderstanding from the general public comes because, unless you've dealt with a child like this, you have no idea what the problems are. For a "normal" child some of what your husband says may be valid. I am of the generation who got taken behind the woodshed and I believe it was good for me (I'm definitely not talking about beating your kids; I'm talking about a swat on the bottom once in a blue moon) but if I had done that with my kid, who had a chemical imbalance in his brain, it would have done nothing but make him worse. And for "normal" kids, dealing with pressures and frustrations probably did make us stronger, but if you have problems to begin with, it can send you completely over the edge, never to return. As somebody who taught in our public schools, I think he's right about kids being overmedicated. There is a tendency right now to push a pill at any kids who seems outside the norm in any way and I find that a tragedy. But for the kids who need it, it is a godsend. Our society wants easy answers that are black and white. They don't seem to be able to understand that one size does not fit all, or even most, and that a lot of these issues are more complicated than they can imagine. I hope our legislature comes back into session and does something brilliant, but, after all, they are politicians so what can we expect. [/QUOTE]
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