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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 214807" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>I SO wish we parents of difficult child's particularly those with Bipolar who deal with rages, racing thoughts, intense emotional outbursts and outright defiance of expected social norms etc. I wish mental health agencies, state agencys could really help find solutions that work. </p><p></p><p>husband and I were at a very desperate point years ago with young difficult child. A judge told us if "You are willing to come up with 30k a year for a boarding facility I know of...I GUARANTEE you will save your child". </p><p>Well of course we were on board...and like one of these parents featured on 20/20 "tricked" young difficult child into going on what he thought was a business trip with husband. They flew to Seatle and then drove to Montana. </p><p></p><p>Young difficult child lasted 9 DAYS before he was to be sent to their more "punitive program" in Jamaica. husband and I did not let this happen (through my insistence) and we drove, easy child husband I to Montanna to pick up young difficult child. He claimed abuse and had some bruising, said he was locked up in what was called "the hobbit" a log building for their more troubled "students". It was a very traumatic experience for all of us. </p><p>Of course husband and I went and saw the judge that had "guaranteed us" would save our child, showed him the paperwork, told him what had happend etc. </p><p>But it's THAT level of desperation that a parent will go to...we had no other choice at the time. </p><p>And their were other times, times that young difficult child was kicking screaming cussing that I NEARLY nearly pulled into the firestation near our house and said to someone, "Please help me with my child". </p><p></p><p>I'm VERY disappointed in husband. We did spank along the way. We did ALOT of corner time. I think easy child may have gotten one lil swat on the bottom once. But our difficult child's...they were high maintenance and particularly young difficult child with his Bipolar issues, was just off the charts difficult to deal with...</p><p>Have no idea where husband is coming from now. </p><p>I told him of a time in my "raging youth" where one of my mother's friends told her to leave the room when we were at her house. She was going to "get me under control". She did so by slapping me silly over and over and OVER again. This, all in the name of straightening me out and getting me under control. </p><p>It did nothing but make me lose even more respect for my mother and adult figures. Make me distrust those who I should feel cared for me and were there to keep me safe. </p><p>I shared this incident with husband...His response, "well it wasn't done on a consistent basis". </p><p>Sad and angered. Thank g-d my bipolar medications work so well...take the addrenalin and steam out of the scenerio. Can't change him though.</p><p></p><p>Fran...I DO think that it's husband copping out and blaming society for what we dealt with as a family. He just really thinks that if teachers, parents, etc had more use of physical discipline that the situations would be different. </p><p>I just totally disagree. </p><p>You CAN'T get through to a raging child there is no sense to be made there. </p><p></p><p>It's so sad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 214807, member: 3305"] I SO wish we parents of difficult child's particularly those with Bipolar who deal with rages, racing thoughts, intense emotional outbursts and outright defiance of expected social norms etc. I wish mental health agencies, state agencys could really help find solutions that work. husband and I were at a very desperate point years ago with young difficult child. A judge told us if "You are willing to come up with 30k a year for a boarding facility I know of...I GUARANTEE you will save your child". Well of course we were on board...and like one of these parents featured on 20/20 "tricked" young difficult child into going on what he thought was a business trip with husband. They flew to Seatle and then drove to Montana. Young difficult child lasted 9 DAYS before he was to be sent to their more "punitive program" in Jamaica. husband and I did not let this happen (through my insistence) and we drove, easy child husband I to Montanna to pick up young difficult child. He claimed abuse and had some bruising, said he was locked up in what was called "the hobbit" a log building for their more troubled "students". It was a very traumatic experience for all of us. Of course husband and I went and saw the judge that had "guaranteed us" would save our child, showed him the paperwork, told him what had happend etc. But it's THAT level of desperation that a parent will go to...we had no other choice at the time. And their were other times, times that young difficult child was kicking screaming cussing that I NEARLY nearly pulled into the firestation near our house and said to someone, "Please help me with my child". I'm VERY disappointed in husband. We did spank along the way. We did ALOT of corner time. I think easy child may have gotten one lil swat on the bottom once. But our difficult child's...they were high maintenance and particularly young difficult child with his Bipolar issues, was just off the charts difficult to deal with... Have no idea where husband is coming from now. I told him of a time in my "raging youth" where one of my mother's friends told her to leave the room when we were at her house. She was going to "get me under control". She did so by slapping me silly over and over and OVER again. This, all in the name of straightening me out and getting me under control. It did nothing but make me lose even more respect for my mother and adult figures. Make me distrust those who I should feel cared for me and were there to keep me safe. I shared this incident with husband...His response, "well it wasn't done on a consistent basis". Sad and angered. Thank g-d my bipolar medications work so well...take the addrenalin and steam out of the scenerio. Can't change him though. Fran...I DO think that it's husband copping out and blaming society for what we dealt with as a family. He just really thinks that if teachers, parents, etc had more use of physical discipline that the situations would be different. I just totally disagree. You CAN'T get through to a raging child there is no sense to be made there. It's so sad. [/QUOTE]
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