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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 382643" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Hey, that is still good progress. difficult child is learning that you will walk away and not engage him. He is also learning to finally knuckle down and do it. </p><p></p><p>You also learned that a common trigger for difficult child is to be told it's wrong. He sounds like he responded out of panic and anxiety as much as anything. And he needed to calm himself down from the anxiety.</p><p></p><p>Something to work towards now - later o, when the work is done and he is calm, ask him what upset him. If recalling it begins to make him angry, tell him it's OK, you just wanted to know so you can help him learn how to stay calm. It is a steep learning curve for both of you, and it will take time. Let him know that you are trying to change direction, to find ways to help him learn how to best help himself, and these two days show it is worth the effort. Be gentle and encouraging, but always prepared to walk away or pull back before he rages. As you do this you will learn the early warning signs; over time he also will learn his own early warning signs and will learn to let you know.</p><p></p><p>Great progress!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 382643, member: 1991"] Hey, that is still good progress. difficult child is learning that you will walk away and not engage him. He is also learning to finally knuckle down and do it. You also learned that a common trigger for difficult child is to be told it's wrong. He sounds like he responded out of panic and anxiety as much as anything. And he needed to calm himself down from the anxiety. Something to work towards now - later o, when the work is done and he is calm, ask him what upset him. If recalling it begins to make him angry, tell him it's OK, you just wanted to know so you can help him learn how to stay calm. It is a steep learning curve for both of you, and it will take time. Let him know that you are trying to change direction, to find ways to help him learn how to best help himself, and these two days show it is worth the effort. Be gentle and encouraging, but always prepared to walk away or pull back before he rages. As you do this you will learn the early warning signs; over time he also will learn his own early warning signs and will learn to let you know. Great progress! Marg [/QUOTE]
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