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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 382654" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>So even if you ask, "Can we talk about how you felt before?" is likely to cause a meltdown?</p><p></p><p>What works, is a gradual desensitisation, where you get as close as you can without the meltdown. Of course you don't want to trigger the meltdown, but you and he need to work together to develop a kind of code, or some workable solution, where you can guide him to check certain answers.</p><p></p><p> Perhaps if you set up with him, that he may or may not be incorrect in a few answers, but you feel it would benefit him to check those ones. Would he be able to work with this?</p><p></p><p>Of course over time, he will be better able to accept the label "incorrect". As I said, you work towards this.</p><p></p><p>We had troubles with difficult child 3 over the years, because the word "law" would upset him. If I said, "It's the law," or anything like that. He actually told me, mid rage, not to say "law". I don't know why. It was bizarre. Again, desensitisation is what worked.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 382654, member: 1991"] So even if you ask, "Can we talk about how you felt before?" is likely to cause a meltdown? What works, is a gradual desensitisation, where you get as close as you can without the meltdown. Of course you don't want to trigger the meltdown, but you and he need to work together to develop a kind of code, or some workable solution, where you can guide him to check certain answers. Perhaps if you set up with him, that he may or may not be incorrect in a few answers, but you feel it would benefit him to check those ones. Would he be able to work with this? Of course over time, he will be better able to accept the label "incorrect". As I said, you work towards this. We had troubles with difficult child 3 over the years, because the word "law" would upset him. If I said, "It's the law," or anything like that. He actually told me, mid rage, not to say "law". I don't know why. It was bizarre. Again, desensitisation is what worked. Marg [/QUOTE]
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