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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 195409" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>"I'll be sure to grovel appropriately at back-to-school night next week"</p><p></p><p>Don't grovel. You've apologise already. And it IS possible that difficult child did tell her already, several weeks ago. Maybe he told a different teacher, or he told this one and she just didn't register. he may have just said, "Miss... so-and-so is reaching over and typing on my keyboard again!" and she may have just said, "so-and-so, cut it out," without even turning around.</p><p>That sort of by-play can happen so often, so easily, that a teacher may not realise how bad a problem is. The student also may feel unheard if it IS a big problem. A student with a big problem can very easily sound alike a student with a small problem.</p><p></p><p>I'd be believing your son. I'd also be believing the teacher. Which tells me - the teacher just didn't realise, the first time, that this is an ongoing problem. The teacher NOW may not remember being told before, or may be covering her rear. Whichever it is, doesn't matter now. what matters now is your email left a paper trail, so she HAD to acknowledge that now she knows.</p><p></p><p>If you son complained next month and you sent an email, and the teracher said, "I didn't realise until now that this is going on, I will speak to te boy and move tem," THEN you could get angry because YOU have acopy of the email already sent to notify her.</p><p></p><p>A friend of mine had a number of big problems with her daughter's teacher. She complained to the principal who said to her, "Nobody else has complained about this teacher. It must have just been an isolated incident."</p><p>The mother later found a number of other parents HAD complained to the principal. However, none of them (including my friend) had complained in writing, therefore he was able to claim, "Nobody has told me about this," and get away with it.</p><p>That principal survived until retirement with the phrase, "Nobody has told me about this before now. I will look into it, but it sounds like an isolated incident."</p><p></p><p>It sounds to me that this bully is either bored, or not coping with the work. By erasing someone else's work, he is making sure he isn't the only one to turn in substandard work.</p><p>Maybe another strategy could be to suggest to your son that he offer to help the other boy? To teach him how to do it?</p><p></p><p>It's just a thought, but it is another way to head bullies off. Of course your son owes this other boy nothing. But it would be the heroic, grand gesture to at least offer. As long as he can keep his own work safe in the process. And for the bully - it's a lot harder to be mean to someone who is being kind to you.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 195409, member: 1991"] "I'll be sure to grovel appropriately at back-to-school night next week" Don't grovel. You've apologise already. And it IS possible that difficult child did tell her already, several weeks ago. Maybe he told a different teacher, or he told this one and she just didn't register. he may have just said, "Miss... so-and-so is reaching over and typing on my keyboard again!" and she may have just said, "so-and-so, cut it out," without even turning around. That sort of by-play can happen so often, so easily, that a teacher may not realise how bad a problem is. The student also may feel unheard if it IS a big problem. A student with a big problem can very easily sound alike a student with a small problem. I'd be believing your son. I'd also be believing the teacher. Which tells me - the teacher just didn't realise, the first time, that this is an ongoing problem. The teacher NOW may not remember being told before, or may be covering her rear. Whichever it is, doesn't matter now. what matters now is your email left a paper trail, so she HAD to acknowledge that now she knows. If you son complained next month and you sent an email, and the teracher said, "I didn't realise until now that this is going on, I will speak to te boy and move tem," THEN you could get angry because YOU have acopy of the email already sent to notify her. A friend of mine had a number of big problems with her daughter's teacher. She complained to the principal who said to her, "Nobody else has complained about this teacher. It must have just been an isolated incident." The mother later found a number of other parents HAD complained to the principal. However, none of them (including my friend) had complained in writing, therefore he was able to claim, "Nobody has told me about this," and get away with it. That principal survived until retirement with the phrase, "Nobody has told me about this before now. I will look into it, but it sounds like an isolated incident." It sounds to me that this bully is either bored, or not coping with the work. By erasing someone else's work, he is making sure he isn't the only one to turn in substandard work. Maybe another strategy could be to suggest to your son that he offer to help the other boy? To teach him how to do it? It's just a thought, but it is another way to head bullies off. Of course your son owes this other boy nothing. But it would be the heroic, grand gesture to at least offer. As long as he can keep his own work safe in the process. And for the bully - it's a lot harder to be mean to someone who is being kind to you. Marg [/QUOTE]
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