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difficult child 1's hygiene is still an issue and I don't know what to do about it.
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 557601" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>While I absolutely agree that the underlying issue of not wanting to shower needs to be identified and addressed, I'm a little ticked at audacity of teacher. I do tend to have a knee-jerk reaction to this kind of junk from schools - to me the insinuation is that you personally have no clue about hygiene and need this teacher to remind *you* to remind your kid to shower. </p><p></p><p>I would respond with a very sweet email thanking her for her concern, assuring her that you are well aware of difficult child's issues with hygiene and that this has been an ongoing problem at home that you are trying to address daily. I'd then suggest that, as part of her IEP and <strong><em><u>transition goals</u></em></strong>, perhaps appropriate hygiene could also be addressed by the IEP team, so that difficult child gets a consistent message in all settings. I've been known to get kind of snarky with- these kinds of folks, so it would be hard to resist throwing in there that if teacher is aware of a strategy to get difficult child into the shower, you'd welcome her input - and then list the strategies you have tried thus far.</p><p></p><p>Yes, our kids need to shower. Absolutely NO, you are not the first parent to deal with this. It's not like she's 2 and you can toss her in the tub. I agree with you - she has got to take some personal responsibility for it. As far as teacher..... sigh. Don't take it personally. Some people are just clueless.</p><p></p><p>I once got a note from a teacher requesting that I make sure Boo wore a coat to school - it was getting "cold" and he would get "sick." Because, what? My quadriplegic son was sneaking out of the house without a coat (call Ripley's!!!!)? I'm too stupid to know what was appropriate clothing for him? She got a packet from me about the cause of illnesses (bacteria/viruses, not outdoor temperature), the effects of neurologic damage on body temperature regulation, a list of side effects of his medications (he can't sweat), documentation of the heat-retaining properties of his wheelchair seat fabric, and finally a simply beautiful article from the National Institute of Health debunking the old wives' tale that being in cooler weather without a coat causes people to get sick, along with reassurances that since I got him up in the morning, dressed him, and took him out to the bus, I was fully aware of what he was wearing and that his attire was appropriate for *him*. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes you really just have to spell it out in plain simple English for folks. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 557601, member: 8"] While I absolutely agree that the underlying issue of not wanting to shower needs to be identified and addressed, I'm a little ticked at audacity of teacher. I do tend to have a knee-jerk reaction to this kind of junk from schools - to me the insinuation is that you personally have no clue about hygiene and need this teacher to remind *you* to remind your kid to shower. I would respond with a very sweet email thanking her for her concern, assuring her that you are well aware of difficult child's issues with hygiene and that this has been an ongoing problem at home that you are trying to address daily. I'd then suggest that, as part of her IEP and [B][I][U]transition goals[/U][/I][/B], perhaps appropriate hygiene could also be addressed by the IEP team, so that difficult child gets a consistent message in all settings. I've been known to get kind of snarky with- these kinds of folks, so it would be hard to resist throwing in there that if teacher is aware of a strategy to get difficult child into the shower, you'd welcome her input - and then list the strategies you have tried thus far. Yes, our kids need to shower. Absolutely NO, you are not the first parent to deal with this. It's not like she's 2 and you can toss her in the tub. I agree with you - she has got to take some personal responsibility for it. As far as teacher..... sigh. Don't take it personally. Some people are just clueless. I once got a note from a teacher requesting that I make sure Boo wore a coat to school - it was getting "cold" and he would get "sick." Because, what? My quadriplegic son was sneaking out of the house without a coat (call Ripley's!!!!)? I'm too stupid to know what was appropriate clothing for him? She got a packet from me about the cause of illnesses (bacteria/viruses, not outdoor temperature), the effects of neurologic damage on body temperature regulation, a list of side effects of his medications (he can't sweat), documentation of the heat-retaining properties of his wheelchair seat fabric, and finally a simply beautiful article from the National Institute of Health debunking the old wives' tale that being in cooler weather without a coat causes people to get sick, along with reassurances that since I got him up in the morning, dressed him, and took him out to the bus, I was fully aware of what he was wearing and that his attire was appropriate for *him*. Sometimes you really just have to spell it out in plain simple English for folks. :winking: [/QUOTE]
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