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difficult child 1's hygiene is still an issue and I don't know what to do about it.
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 557620" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>I briefly read through the responses but wanted to address this based on my own experience with now 23 year old difficult child.</p><p></p><p>difficult child loved baths as a little kid. Just around the time her body began to change, she began to be a pita about showering or bathing. It became a daily struggle that never ended. I spoke with her about personal hygiene till I was blue in the face...over and over again. When her period started, omg, you'd think she'd get with the program, but no. Nothing changed, one of her teachers, ironically a woman who always smelled like bad BO and never wore a bra, called me and said that some of the other girls asked her why difficult child had greasy hair. I laughed right in her ear. I said, "Hey, if you have an idea that will work, please, PLEASE, do tell". I never got another call again. At the next PPT I brought up the fact that she is a difficult child with several varied diagnosis that overlap one another, ahem, there are just too many things for me to be on top of and I will continue to tell difficult child she needs to bathe, but no mo battles. She needs to figure this one out on her own.</p><p></p><p>Now the bad news...it hasn't gotten much better. She still showers about every three to four days...almost never brushes her teeth and her hair is almost always in a perpetual pony tail knot. No face washing, no makeup, no dressing nice for work, etc. She will even put deoderant on every day without bathing, ew. That said, she does use bathroom wipes as a means of keeping her privates cleaned up at least. I do not know how her fiancé can stand it, honestly. </p><p></p><p>I suppose it can be tied in with her depression, Tourette's Syndrome, anxiety, or mood disorder, but I don't think this behavior can be attributed to only depression or any diagnosis really. I think the best thing you can do at this point is try to persuade her to shower and tell the team at school to back off. Best of luck. I really do not think you a going to be able to solve this. She needs to want to shower. Incidentally, once my difficult child was finally in and done bathing or showering, she always felt great...but then four days would pass and I'd be back to nagging again. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 557620, member: 2211"] I briefly read through the responses but wanted to address this based on my own experience with now 23 year old difficult child. difficult child loved baths as a little kid. Just around the time her body began to change, she began to be a pita about showering or bathing. It became a daily struggle that never ended. I spoke with her about personal hygiene till I was blue in the face...over and over again. When her period started, omg, you'd think she'd get with the program, but no. Nothing changed, one of her teachers, ironically a woman who always smelled like bad BO and never wore a bra, called me and said that some of the other girls asked her why difficult child had greasy hair. I laughed right in her ear. I said, "Hey, if you have an idea that will work, please, PLEASE, do tell". I never got another call again. At the next PPT I brought up the fact that she is a difficult child with several varied diagnosis that overlap one another, ahem, there are just too many things for me to be on top of and I will continue to tell difficult child she needs to bathe, but no mo battles. She needs to figure this one out on her own. Now the bad news...it hasn't gotten much better. She still showers about every three to four days...almost never brushes her teeth and her hair is almost always in a perpetual pony tail knot. No face washing, no makeup, no dressing nice for work, etc. She will even put deoderant on every day without bathing, ew. That said, she does use bathroom wipes as a means of keeping her privates cleaned up at least. I do not know how her fiancé can stand it, honestly. I suppose it can be tied in with her depression, Tourette's Syndrome, anxiety, or mood disorder, but I don't think this behavior can be attributed to only depression or any diagnosis really. I think the best thing you can do at this point is try to persuade her to shower and tell the team at school to back off. Best of luck. I really do not think you a going to be able to solve this. She needs to want to shower. Incidentally, once my difficult child was finally in and done bathing or showering, she always felt great...but then four days would pass and I'd be back to nagging again. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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