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difficult child 2 in psychiatric hospital and they are talking out of home placement
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<blockquote data-quote="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo" data-source="post: 460448" data-attributes="member: 12241"><p>Work towards outplacement and do not feel bad or guilty! </p><p></p><p>He needs this as much as the rest of your family needs a few weeks or months or peace and quiet at home, and it will give you all a breather to catch up on "normal". You have not been able to reach him at home - as a matter of fact - as per your own statements things have been escalating lately to the worse - taunting, harassment, threatening physical violence and more. </p><p></p><p>He really needs to see how things are elsewhere and have something else to think about. I think at that age - even without all of the various difficult child health issues and limitations, most kids are very self centered and wrapped up in themselves and their own needs and wants, and have no idea [never mind TV and all that] of what real life somewhere else is like. Let him experience first hand what his life will look like if he is not working and contributing to getting better. Sometimes a wake-up call and a healthy dose of reality can bring a change and may be the turning point to the way of getting better. Do not shot yourself in the foot by feeling guilty about not having him home - push for outplacement. Do not sabotage his chance of growth by babying him and giving in to his childish demands [unless of course you love the drama and stress he creates in your home?]. He doesn't like the food, oh well - tough isn't it? He is not going to starve to death, trust me. Even picky eaters know when to more or less gracefully give in and eat, even if they don't like it. You just undercut the doctor there - he is restricted to the cafeteria because he is not cooperating and you are telling the nurse he likes PBJs - what were you thinking? I hope she just humored you - your difficult child needs to learn that the real world doesn't give a flip about his wants, tempertantrums and issues - I think getting that part is a big eye opener to how good they have it at home. Sure helped my own kiddo and got him thinking.</p><p></p><p>In most cases outplacement is for a limited time anyways, go for it if you can get it - he will be back sooner than you are ready for him <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/groooansmileyf.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":groan:" title="groan :groan:" data-shortname=":groan:" />...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo, post: 460448, member: 12241"] Work towards outplacement and do not feel bad or guilty! He needs this as much as the rest of your family needs a few weeks or months or peace and quiet at home, and it will give you all a breather to catch up on "normal". You have not been able to reach him at home - as a matter of fact - as per your own statements things have been escalating lately to the worse - taunting, harassment, threatening physical violence and more. He really needs to see how things are elsewhere and have something else to think about. I think at that age - even without all of the various difficult child health issues and limitations, most kids are very self centered and wrapped up in themselves and their own needs and wants, and have no idea [never mind TV and all that] of what real life somewhere else is like. Let him experience first hand what his life will look like if he is not working and contributing to getting better. Sometimes a wake-up call and a healthy dose of reality can bring a change and may be the turning point to the way of getting better. Do not shot yourself in the foot by feeling guilty about not having him home - push for outplacement. Do not sabotage his chance of growth by babying him and giving in to his childish demands [unless of course you love the drama and stress he creates in your home?]. He doesn't like the food, oh well - tough isn't it? He is not going to starve to death, trust me. Even picky eaters know when to more or less gracefully give in and eat, even if they don't like it. You just undercut the doctor there - he is restricted to the cafeteria because he is not cooperating and you are telling the nurse he likes PBJs - what were you thinking? I hope she just humored you - your difficult child needs to learn that the real world doesn't give a flip about his wants, tempertantrums and issues - I think getting that part is a big eye opener to how good they have it at home. Sure helped my own kiddo and got him thinking. In most cases outplacement is for a limited time anyways, go for it if you can get it - he will be back sooner than you are ready for him :groooansmileyf:... [/QUOTE]
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