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difficult child 2 is driving me INSANE! Is it the autism or the ADHD?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 524211" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry things are so tough. I <strong>totally</strong> object to your thought that if it is autism then no medications will work. That just isn't true. It flat out is <strong>wrong</strong>. My son has asperger's, very very high functioning. he takes 3 medications. he has the adhd diagnosis, but it is part oft he asperger's. Concerta worked miracles and when he was on the max and it stopped working, strattera was even better. Wiz also has unipolar depression, meaning he is not bipolar and never manic. He takes another ssri antidepressant because while strattera is an antidepressant, it works on norepinephrine. he also takes a tricyclic a/d for insomnia. with these 3 medications you would nto know he had any diagnosis at all. it is amazing and wonderful. for years he was very aggressive and risperdal was a lifesaver.</p><p></p><p>his adhd isn't really a separate, dual diagnosis. it is listed as a separate diagnosis because you get less insurance hassles if you get more diagnosis's listed. just like the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is part of the disorder but his is a lot stronger than most. the ssri a/d is very helpful with that as well as the depression. </p><p></p><p>Please don't assume that just because his diagnosis may be autism 'only' that medications won't help at all. you just can't know that - they are used to treat symptoms and they can be a giant, enormous help or a giant enormous problem. it takes time and trial and error to find the right medications though.</p><p></p><p>he also clearly <strong>needs</strong> an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory issues - it is abnormal to run around naked at his age. Chances are it is sensory and an Occupational Therapist (OT) can find ways to help wtih this.</p><p></p><p>i would refuse to talk to him, to let him eat, watch tv, do anything fun even if i had to turn the electricity off for a little while until he dressed. At his age this habit could unwittingly invite grooming from a pedophile and your son has no real way to protect himself. He simply must learn that the naked time can only be when he is alone in the bathroom or hsi room and <strong>no one</strong> can talk to him, interact with him or do anything with him during that time - it is totally alone. sort of a 'stop the world' consequence. By age 11 this is not so much because it is 'wrong' as it is a safety issue. Sooner or later someone is going to end up reporting this to CPS and it will be difficult for YOU to explain why he is 'allowed' to run around naked. A good Occupational Therapist (OT) should be able to help figure out a way to help with this. </p><p></p><p>In no way am I implying that you are allowng this or a bad parent or hurting him in any way at all. it just is that at his age it is beyond just being embarrassing or uncomfortable for others. others will hear and either wonder/worry what s going on or worse, think you are making this happen, or worst yet, think it is great and he is perfect for them and start grooming him. </p><p></p><p>i would encourage the older child to tell you every time he is naked and jumping on her or in her face or whatever because it is a type of sexual harrassment of her when he does this knowing she hates it. and he likely does, and likes that it makes him and you and others uncomfortable Not sure how to address this, other than stop the world and everything he likes gets locked down and he must dress to get things back. </p><p></p><p>it is a big problem and won't be fun or easy, but it should, in my opinion, be a Basket A issue at his age.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 524211, member: 1233"] I am sorry things are so tough. I [B]totally[/B] object to your thought that if it is autism then no medications will work. That just isn't true. It flat out is [B]wrong[/B]. My son has asperger's, very very high functioning. he takes 3 medications. he has the adhd diagnosis, but it is part oft he asperger's. Concerta worked miracles and when he was on the max and it stopped working, strattera was even better. Wiz also has unipolar depression, meaning he is not bipolar and never manic. He takes another ssri antidepressant because while strattera is an antidepressant, it works on norepinephrine. he also takes a tricyclic a/d for insomnia. with these 3 medications you would nto know he had any diagnosis at all. it is amazing and wonderful. for years he was very aggressive and risperdal was a lifesaver. his adhd isn't really a separate, dual diagnosis. it is listed as a separate diagnosis because you get less insurance hassles if you get more diagnosis's listed. just like the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is part of the disorder but his is a lot stronger than most. the ssri a/d is very helpful with that as well as the depression. Please don't assume that just because his diagnosis may be autism 'only' that medications won't help at all. you just can't know that - they are used to treat symptoms and they can be a giant, enormous help or a giant enormous problem. it takes time and trial and error to find the right medications though. he also clearly [B]needs[/B] an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory issues - it is abnormal to run around naked at his age. Chances are it is sensory and an Occupational Therapist (OT) can find ways to help wtih this. i would refuse to talk to him, to let him eat, watch tv, do anything fun even if i had to turn the electricity off for a little while until he dressed. At his age this habit could unwittingly invite grooming from a pedophile and your son has no real way to protect himself. He simply must learn that the naked time can only be when he is alone in the bathroom or hsi room and [B]no one[/B] can talk to him, interact with him or do anything with him during that time - it is totally alone. sort of a 'stop the world' consequence. By age 11 this is not so much because it is 'wrong' as it is a safety issue. Sooner or later someone is going to end up reporting this to CPS and it will be difficult for YOU to explain why he is 'allowed' to run around naked. A good Occupational Therapist (OT) should be able to help figure out a way to help with this. In no way am I implying that you are allowng this or a bad parent or hurting him in any way at all. it just is that at his age it is beyond just being embarrassing or uncomfortable for others. others will hear and either wonder/worry what s going on or worse, think you are making this happen, or worst yet, think it is great and he is perfect for them and start grooming him. i would encourage the older child to tell you every time he is naked and jumping on her or in her face or whatever because it is a type of sexual harrassment of her when he does this knowing she hates it. and he likely does, and likes that it makes him and you and others uncomfortable Not sure how to address this, other than stop the world and everything he likes gets locked down and he must dress to get things back. it is a big problem and won't be fun or easy, but it should, in my opinion, be a Basket A issue at his age. [/QUOTE]
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