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difficult child 23 y/o living with me again, problems....
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<blockquote data-quote="bertie" data-source="post: 545415" data-attributes="member: 965"><p>Hi, thanks so much for your responses.</p><p></p><p>I actually am very restrictive in regards to the food I buy for him. I never buy snacks like chips or donuts or anything like that. It's the basics, like hamburger or stew meat to cook, bread, soup, pasta. Nothing fancy, plus he cooks for himself. Believe me, I am not making it easy for him. I also heavily restrict the cash I give to him. I'll give him $20 once a week to buy gas to get to his job (his car is a gas-guzzler, and I know that isn't very much) and I won't give him any more unless he is able to pay me back when he gets paid.</p><p></p><p>Yes, the abuse is a deal-breaker. I actually threw him out of the house on Saturday night because he said something that SET ME OFF (I think it was, "Well I don't have any money for gas mom, so I can't go to work on Monday and it's all your fault") - HAH! Boy, that absolutely infuriated me. I was pounding on the bathroom door when he was taking a shower and telling him to get out and not come back until the next day, which he did. I think it taught him a lesson because he's been good since then.</p><p></p><p>These days if he wants something extra, he has to do something around the house to earn it. He already does the dishes (a huge help) and some other chores around the house on a weekly basis. </p><p></p><p>One thing I'd like to know is - can anyone share their experience in how pot affects your difficult child? I may make this a separate thread. I've done some reading and it says different things on the web in regards to bipolars - it says it can make them either manic or depressed. I am seeing my (and his former) psychiatrist on Friday, so I will talk to her about it.</p><p></p><p>Right now he's working a construction job and is doing ok. He brought home a bathroom sink yesterday with bronze fixtures, so that earned him a gold star in my book : ) (I'm renovating my house on the cheap). I should also emphasize that when he's in a good mood, we get along pretty well. But when he's not doing well, he can ruin my days (as I'm sure you also have experienced).</p><p></p><p>Thanks again - and I wish the best to all of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bertie, post: 545415, member: 965"] Hi, thanks so much for your responses. I actually am very restrictive in regards to the food I buy for him. I never buy snacks like chips or donuts or anything like that. It's the basics, like hamburger or stew meat to cook, bread, soup, pasta. Nothing fancy, plus he cooks for himself. Believe me, I am not making it easy for him. I also heavily restrict the cash I give to him. I'll give him $20 once a week to buy gas to get to his job (his car is a gas-guzzler, and I know that isn't very much) and I won't give him any more unless he is able to pay me back when he gets paid. Yes, the abuse is a deal-breaker. I actually threw him out of the house on Saturday night because he said something that SET ME OFF (I think it was, "Well I don't have any money for gas mom, so I can't go to work on Monday and it's all your fault") - HAH! Boy, that absolutely infuriated me. I was pounding on the bathroom door when he was taking a shower and telling him to get out and not come back until the next day, which he did. I think it taught him a lesson because he's been good since then. These days if he wants something extra, he has to do something around the house to earn it. He already does the dishes (a huge help) and some other chores around the house on a weekly basis. One thing I'd like to know is - can anyone share their experience in how pot affects your difficult child? I may make this a separate thread. I've done some reading and it says different things on the web in regards to bipolars - it says it can make them either manic or depressed. I am seeing my (and his former) psychiatrist on Friday, so I will talk to her about it. Right now he's working a construction job and is doing ok. He brought home a bathroom sink yesterday with bronze fixtures, so that earned him a gold star in my book : ) (I'm renovating my house on the cheap). I should also emphasize that when he's in a good mood, we get along pretty well. But when he's not doing well, he can ruin my days (as I'm sure you also have experienced). Thanks again - and I wish the best to all of you. [/QUOTE]
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