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difficult child 3 is moving out,my mommy heart is hurting but its seems to be the right thing.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 582672" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I think there are quite a number of options between you co-signing and her ending up on the street. That way of looking at it really limits your options and scares you. She could rent a room in someones home, that's a lot cheaper. Getting her own apartment is a huge step and the way I am looking at it is that she can't make that big a step without your help and even with two jobs that will stretch her to the max financially and she will have blown all her money too. This is just my way of seeing it, I am not you nor do I know all the ins and outs as you do, but if she wants to move, she is itching for her independence and you are against it, it doesn't sound like a good idea for you to cosign for her. Let her find out all by herself without your interference just what it's like "out there." She doesn't really have a clue. Is she asking you to co-sign for her? Plus, if you co-sign and the whole thing falls apart, the only one who will be learning a lesson is YOU, and you will be losing money too! If she wants to go, she can get a roommate, she can rent a room, she can get two roommates, because really, that's what young folks have to do now a days, because rents are so expensive. I believe this could be a real life lesson for her and give her information and experience which will ultimately be positive. I would say to give her a chance, she may surprise you and find a way herself. If she does great, if she doesn't, she will likely come home with a lot of life experience and a little bit of wisdom. I can say all of that, but I am not her Mom, you are, so you follow your heart but just be careful. Let her fly, see if she grows wings on her own..............hugs..............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 582672, member: 13542"] I think there are quite a number of options between you co-signing and her ending up on the street. That way of looking at it really limits your options and scares you. She could rent a room in someones home, that's a lot cheaper. Getting her own apartment is a huge step and the way I am looking at it is that she can't make that big a step without your help and even with two jobs that will stretch her to the max financially and she will have blown all her money too. This is just my way of seeing it, I am not you nor do I know all the ins and outs as you do, but if she wants to move, she is itching for her independence and you are against it, it doesn't sound like a good idea for you to cosign for her. Let her find out all by herself without your interference just what it's like "out there." She doesn't really have a clue. Is she asking you to co-sign for her? Plus, if you co-sign and the whole thing falls apart, the only one who will be learning a lesson is YOU, and you will be losing money too! If she wants to go, she can get a roommate, she can rent a room, she can get two roommates, because really, that's what young folks have to do now a days, because rents are so expensive. I believe this could be a real life lesson for her and give her information and experience which will ultimately be positive. I would say to give her a chance, she may surprise you and find a way herself. If she does great, if she doesn't, she will likely come home with a lot of life experience and a little bit of wisdom. I can say all of that, but I am not her Mom, you are, so you follow your heart but just be careful. Let her fly, see if she grows wings on her own..............hugs.............. [/QUOTE]
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