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difficult child 3 is moving out,my mommy heart is hurting but its seems to be the right thing.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 582724" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Rabbit, your comment "she refuses to move into a dorm because she doesn't want a roommate" is very telling. That is a childish, selfish comment lacking in common sense and reality. Just because she doesn't want something, doesn't make reality any less real.................as gsingjane mentioned, having your own apartment at 19 is certainly not the norm. I know college graduates who are in a one bedroom apartment with 2-3 kids sharing the space. She really is in a fantasy world and allowing her to find that out will be a very good life lesson and perhaps make her somewhat less entitled-thinking and easier to live with when she understands this will not happen in the way she thinks it will without your help. I've read all the posts and everyone has given you excellent advice, it now sounds like a really BAD idea for you to cosign and I hope you heed that advice. Think clearly about all of it, allow her to find out for herself that just because she wants something and refuses to listen to the truth, her desire will not bend reality and have life offer her up her dreams without her working towards something in an organized, meticulous and financially solvent manner. I also agree with gsingjane that this is probably completely driven by the teenage mindset that now she will have her own apartment once her boyfriend shows up. Be very careful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 582724, member: 13542"] Rabbit, your comment "she refuses to move into a dorm because she doesn't want a roommate" is very telling. That is a childish, selfish comment lacking in common sense and reality. Just because she doesn't want something, doesn't make reality any less real.................as gsingjane mentioned, having your own apartment at 19 is certainly not the norm. I know college graduates who are in a one bedroom apartment with 2-3 kids sharing the space. She really is in a fantasy world and allowing her to find that out will be a very good life lesson and perhaps make her somewhat less entitled-thinking and easier to live with when she understands this will not happen in the way she thinks it will without your help. I've read all the posts and everyone has given you excellent advice, it now sounds like a really BAD idea for you to cosign and I hope you heed that advice. Think clearly about all of it, allow her to find out for herself that just because she wants something and refuses to listen to the truth, her desire will not bend reality and have life offer her up her dreams without her working towards something in an organized, meticulous and financially solvent manner. I also agree with gsingjane that this is probably completely driven by the teenage mindset that now she will have her own apartment once her boyfriend shows up. Be very careful. [/QUOTE]
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