daralex
Clinging onto my sanity
You've got to be kidding me!
So I posted a little while back that 14 yr old difficult child met 19 yr old online and are "dating".
I took away the internet camera and locked her out of the website they met on. I cannot block 19 yr olds phone number on difficult child's phone, but have been monitoring call log online. Everything was ok - so I thought, but . . .
IT's BACK!
difficult child breaks down at midnight Sunday hysterically crying and makes me stay up with her till 3am because she is sad because 19 yr old tries to break up with her. (YESSSSS - WHAT?!!) She asks me to sleep on the couch with her (SURE -NO PROBLEM!) as she does not want to be alone.We stay up until 3am (AGAIN - NO PROBLEM - I ONLY HAVE TO WAKE UP FOR WORK AT 5:30AM!!) Last night she comes into my room hysterically crying - same issue. Now I find out her best friend (lives 16 hrs away) is also telling her to forget about 19 yr old and now difficult child is mad at best friend for not "having her back!" and has effectively isolated herself! (difficult child has no friends - she is socially awkward to say the least and we just moved here a year ago and has made NO succesful contact with any life form!)
19 yr old is no longer planning on moving here ( a plus!) but I cannot monitor every form of communication known to man! I cannot monitor text messages, IM's, other online sites, etc. I cannot shut difficult child down on every electronic device we own as it is her only form of socialness (is that a word?).
I am thinking that difficult child is involved emotionally to the point that I need to let this mess take it's course - wait for her to be heartbroken - and move onto the next dilemma.
I have tried talking with her to get her to understand this is going no where and that it is still FORBIDDEN. But difficult child is now fixated on this relationship - the more I say/discipline/punish/explain - the more it makes difficult child cling to the 19 yr old. SHE IS ON A MISSION! We are past the point of no return.
I am so exhausted.
So I posted a little while back that 14 yr old difficult child met 19 yr old online and are "dating".
I took away the internet camera and locked her out of the website they met on. I cannot block 19 yr olds phone number on difficult child's phone, but have been monitoring call log online. Everything was ok - so I thought, but . . .
IT's BACK!
difficult child breaks down at midnight Sunday hysterically crying and makes me stay up with her till 3am because she is sad because 19 yr old tries to break up with her. (YESSSSS - WHAT?!!) She asks me to sleep on the couch with her (SURE -NO PROBLEM!) as she does not want to be alone.We stay up until 3am (AGAIN - NO PROBLEM - I ONLY HAVE TO WAKE UP FOR WORK AT 5:30AM!!) Last night she comes into my room hysterically crying - same issue. Now I find out her best friend (lives 16 hrs away) is also telling her to forget about 19 yr old and now difficult child is mad at best friend for not "having her back!" and has effectively isolated herself! (difficult child has no friends - she is socially awkward to say the least and we just moved here a year ago and has made NO succesful contact with any life form!)
19 yr old is no longer planning on moving here ( a plus!) but I cannot monitor every form of communication known to man! I cannot monitor text messages, IM's, other online sites, etc. I cannot shut difficult child down on every electronic device we own as it is her only form of socialness (is that a word?).
I am thinking that difficult child is involved emotionally to the point that I need to let this mess take it's course - wait for her to be heartbroken - and move onto the next dilemma.
I have tried talking with her to get her to understand this is going no where and that it is still FORBIDDEN. But difficult child is now fixated on this relationship - the more I say/discipline/punish/explain - the more it makes difficult child cling to the 19 yr old. SHE IS ON A MISSION! We are past the point of no return.
I am so exhausted.