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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 639964" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is exactly what my son does, Suzir. You explained it very well. By the way, your English is terrific.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, this does become a problem. Every time my son is stressed, and the more he is stressed the harder it becomes for him to control himself and he says and does very antagonistic things, the you-know-what hits the fan. He seems to revert to age two and has a tantrum, namecalls, makes unreasonable demands, abuses others and sometimes he used to and maybe still does break the law. He simply can not function under stress without getting crazy. And when he is under stress plus drinks, which is one of his coping mechanisms, it is all the more awful. One time last year he threatened to come to my house and shoot me if I did something that I would never do anyway, but it set him off. He's never touched a gun and probably didn't mean it, but to this day I get the chills when I think about it. When we talked about it later he dismissed it with, "Well, you know how stressed I was at the time and you saidd (I forgot what I said)."</p><p></p><p>It is not ok. It's really good to learn how to handle yourself when upset if you have trouble doing it. I'm going to go back to my favorite method, which is dialectal behavioral therapy. I think it rocks, although it may not do it for everybody. This is an important skill to have. Like Suzir said, nobody wants to deal with somebody who you just know is going to explode when stressed, a little or a lot. It is a must-have skill for most to function both socially and especially in the working community. Loose cannons do not do well in life. They are too stressed out without the proper knowledge of how to handle things, but as adults there are very few allowances made for this. It simply becomes the person's huge problem that causes him or her tons and tons of trouble.</p><p></p><p>Well said, Suzir. I know I didn't say exactly what you meant, but I liked your post.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 639964, member: 1550"] This is exactly what my son does, Suzir. You explained it very well. By the way, your English is terrific. At any rate, this does become a problem. Every time my son is stressed, and the more he is stressed the harder it becomes for him to control himself and he says and does very antagonistic things, the you-know-what hits the fan. He seems to revert to age two and has a tantrum, namecalls, makes unreasonable demands, abuses others and sometimes he used to and maybe still does break the law. He simply can not function under stress without getting crazy. And when he is under stress plus drinks, which is one of his coping mechanisms, it is all the more awful. One time last year he threatened to come to my house and shoot me if I did something that I would never do anyway, but it set him off. He's never touched a gun and probably didn't mean it, but to this day I get the chills when I think about it. When we talked about it later he dismissed it with, "Well, you know how stressed I was at the time and you saidd (I forgot what I said)." It is not ok. It's really good to learn how to handle yourself when upset if you have trouble doing it. I'm going to go back to my favorite method, which is dialectal behavioral therapy. I think it rocks, although it may not do it for everybody. This is an important skill to have. Like Suzir said, nobody wants to deal with somebody who you just know is going to explode when stressed, a little or a lot. It is a must-have skill for most to function both socially and especially in the working community. Loose cannons do not do well in life. They are too stressed out without the proper knowledge of how to handle things, but as adults there are very few allowances made for this. It simply becomes the person's huge problem that causes him or her tons and tons of trouble. Well said, Suzir. I know I didn't say exactly what you meant, but I liked your post. [/QUOTE]
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