hi i had to share this, rewiring this kid is unlike anything i've ever been thru the cbt is full force now, he's pushing hard this new therapist because he knows he can with her. Yet being in the office is totally different than her "applying" these things at home. his aim basically is to make her as uncomfortable as possible regarding any anxiety anything she feels. he said when we take our kids out of the anxiety, make provisions for them etc. at home we let them continue to do "avoidance" of the anxiety itself, we feed into it and we never kick it's butt. difficult child sat there today and said i'm scared to do this, that etc. he said but you can do it. what's worst that will happen and they went down the list..... so each day she writes in her book x number of situations where she had either distorted thinking, or fearful etc. and she has to change those thoughts. now our new plan is she has to complete 2 nights this week whereas she doesnt' bother me, harrass me, give me a headache as she's done again tongiht and just lay in her bed and try to sleep he's allowing radio on this week. we've also come to learn she doesnt like silence. he said the name of the game now is if your afraid to do it, than you have to do it! we got into her hoarding today, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), etc. he said all based on fear which comes from anxiety. so we're going down the list of issues. he's a good guy, went out and bought her and i both chocolates from a chocolate shoppe on the block. he bribes her now, says if you do the work i'll have a surprise waiting for you. he's estimating 3 mos till she feels relief at all if she does the work. yet no joke it's so hard because she's so defiant. to take a shower is 40 min thing. he said alot of ppl are diagnosis'd with all sorts of disorders that all stem from anxiety. he said alot of the time and not all, if the anxiety is conquered the other diagnosis's drift away. he said we've all become accustomed to making provisions for our kids, etc. which i agree with-to an extent. he said yet it also teaches them avoidance of the anxiety. interesting right??