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<blockquote data-quote="Californiablonde" data-source="post: 594901" data-attributes="member: 2196"><p>Last night was hard. difficult child begged me to use my phone so she could listen to music. I told her absolutely not. She then told me that I never said she couldn't use MY phone, only HER phone. I told her no phone at all whatsoever. She then tried to get me to hold my phone in my hand and play her favorite music station, that way she "technically" wouldn't be using it. I continued to argue with her and she wouldn't let up. Meanwhile my boyfriend, who is listening to all of this, is secretly texting me telling me not to give in. He is saying she is playing me and not to fall for it. So finally I got so sick of her antics that I decided to go to bed early to avoid it all. So then she follows me in the bedroom and begins shaking me as I'm laying down and persists on asking for her music. She then threatens to take a bunch of her medications and kill herself if I won't let her listen to her music on my phone. So my boyfriend texts me from the livingroom and suggests I let her listen to one song so she would leave me alone. So I let her listen to one song only. She seemed to be satisfied with it and she finally let me sleep.</p><p></p><p>I thought she learned her lesson and would go to school this morning. I was wrong. She refused to get up, saying she didn't sleep well and was too tired. She asked me to pick her up on my lunch break so she could at least make it to her last class. I told her no deal. The agreement was for her to go to all her classes and then she could have the phone and computer back on the weekend. She still refused to get up and go. So I agreed to pick her up on my lunch break but told her that now she won't be getting her privileges back until next Wednesday. I spelled it out loud and clear. She will NOT be allowed to use my phone for music at all whatsoever. So she agreed. But I know come tonight I will have another fight on my hands. The school psychiatric warned me she would do this. He said things will get much worse before they get better. He told me to stay strong and hold my ground. Sooner or later she will get it. I certainly hope so.</p><p></p><p>You all make think I'm terrible for saying this, but I really do envy my ex right now. He got the easy kid. My son is a straight A student who loves school. My son does not have frequent meltdowns and tantrums when he can't get his own way. He may have his disabilities, but he is by far the easier child to raise than my daughter. easy child is a breeze compared to difficult child. And my ex is taking all the credit. Tells me he is doing a great job of raising easy child. Well he was a straight A student when he was living with me too and he had lots of friends at our old school. Ex has only had him for two months. So why is he taking credit for easy child being such a great kid? And I get total 100% blame for difficult child and the way she is turning out. Everything bad she does is MY fault because she lives with me. Why can't I get the easy kid? Sometimes I don't know if I am up for the challenge of raising difficult child but I know I must go on and by the grace of God I will somehow make it through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Californiablonde, post: 594901, member: 2196"] Last night was hard. difficult child begged me to use my phone so she could listen to music. I told her absolutely not. She then told me that I never said she couldn't use MY phone, only HER phone. I told her no phone at all whatsoever. She then tried to get me to hold my phone in my hand and play her favorite music station, that way she "technically" wouldn't be using it. I continued to argue with her and she wouldn't let up. Meanwhile my boyfriend, who is listening to all of this, is secretly texting me telling me not to give in. He is saying she is playing me and not to fall for it. So finally I got so sick of her antics that I decided to go to bed early to avoid it all. So then she follows me in the bedroom and begins shaking me as I'm laying down and persists on asking for her music. She then threatens to take a bunch of her medications and kill herself if I won't let her listen to her music on my phone. So my boyfriend texts me from the livingroom and suggests I let her listen to one song so she would leave me alone. So I let her listen to one song only. She seemed to be satisfied with it and she finally let me sleep. I thought she learned her lesson and would go to school this morning. I was wrong. She refused to get up, saying she didn't sleep well and was too tired. She asked me to pick her up on my lunch break so she could at least make it to her last class. I told her no deal. The agreement was for her to go to all her classes and then she could have the phone and computer back on the weekend. She still refused to get up and go. So I agreed to pick her up on my lunch break but told her that now she won't be getting her privileges back until next Wednesday. I spelled it out loud and clear. She will NOT be allowed to use my phone for music at all whatsoever. So she agreed. But I know come tonight I will have another fight on my hands. The school psychiatric warned me she would do this. He said things will get much worse before they get better. He told me to stay strong and hold my ground. Sooner or later she will get it. I certainly hope so. You all make think I'm terrible for saying this, but I really do envy my ex right now. He got the easy kid. My son is a straight A student who loves school. My son does not have frequent meltdowns and tantrums when he can't get his own way. He may have his disabilities, but he is by far the easier child to raise than my daughter. easy child is a breeze compared to difficult child. And my ex is taking all the credit. Tells me he is doing a great job of raising easy child. Well he was a straight A student when he was living with me too and he had lots of friends at our old school. Ex has only had him for two months. So why is he taking credit for easy child being such a great kid? And I get total 100% blame for difficult child and the way she is turning out. Everything bad she does is MY fault because she lives with me. Why can't I get the easy kid? Sometimes I don't know if I am up for the challenge of raising difficult child but I know I must go on and by the grace of God I will somehow make it through. [/QUOTE]
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