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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 74417" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>You have a lot of concerns about your daughters well being as all of us who have gone the "out of home" treatment have gone through.</p><p></p><p>All of us realize our 14yr olds are emotionally sensitive. All of the kids in your child's program including yours are dysfunctional. Just dysfunctional in a different way. Suicide threats and hospitalizations are a pretty bright flag that is waving "not functioning well". </p><p></p><p>Would she be better outside the program? Isn't suicide the biggest concern here? In 3.5months she has had one half hearted attempt. Seems the program is working. </p><p>She isn't going to snow the staff but she will manipulate you. difficult child's are smart and strong willed. They want what they want when they want it. She needs you to be the rock that prevents her from repeated attempts to end her life or sabotage it. </p><p></p><p>You will worry everyday she is away from home if you are doing the right thing. I carry that on my shoulders too. My alternative was to watch my difficult child self destruct. I did something.</p><p></p><p>In my mind, difficult child can hate me forever. My job is to get him to adulthood to be responsible, independent and functioning. If he likes me-it's the gravy but my job is clear. It's hard to be on the receiving end of their dislike and the spewing of hateful words but keep your eye on the goal. </p><p></p><p>If there is no indication of harm then let the program do what it does. What you were doing before wasn't working. </p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion, of course.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 74417, member: 3"] You have a lot of concerns about your daughters well being as all of us who have gone the "out of home" treatment have gone through. All of us realize our 14yr olds are emotionally sensitive. All of the kids in your child's program including yours are dysfunctional. Just dysfunctional in a different way. Suicide threats and hospitalizations are a pretty bright flag that is waving "not functioning well". Would she be better outside the program? Isn't suicide the biggest concern here? In 3.5months she has had one half hearted attempt. Seems the program is working. She isn't going to snow the staff but she will manipulate you. difficult child's are smart and strong willed. They want what they want when they want it. She needs you to be the rock that prevents her from repeated attempts to end her life or sabotage it. You will worry everyday she is away from home if you are doing the right thing. I carry that on my shoulders too. My alternative was to watch my difficult child self destruct. I did something. In my mind, difficult child can hate me forever. My job is to get him to adulthood to be responsible, independent and functioning. If he likes me-it's the gravy but my job is clear. It's hard to be on the receiving end of their dislike and the spewing of hateful words but keep your eye on the goal. If there is no indication of harm then let the program do what it does. What you were doing before wasn't working. in my humble opinion, of course. [/QUOTE]
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