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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 478856"><p>I'm sure that my difficult child is not the only one who does this, but it drives me up the wall! difficult child wants to be treated a certain way. He wants love, respect, kindness, all of the things that a child needs, wants, and deserves. If he thinks you are being mean to him, or if easy child calls him a name (idiot is the one most often thrown around in our house, and it's usually difficult child who starts it) you would think that the world was going to end from the way that he carries on. </p><p></p><p>But if you turn the tables around, and it's difficult child who is rude to someone, the rules of the game change completely. He does not have to treat anyone with kindess or respect. He can call easy child any name he wants and we should just be okay with that, but if easy child does it to him? Temper tamtrum mode!</p><p></p><p>On occasions when he has done something to easy child, name calling for example, I have tried to tell him that if it were easy child doing it to him he would be having a fit about it and demanding apologies left and right. Why is it okay for him to do it to easy child and not have to say that he's sorry for it? His answer is always, "I would not care. He can call me names. It doesn't bother me." Really?</p><p></p><p>How do you all handle things like this? Apparently, I need to new way to approach this because I'm not getting anywhere with this. I told him this morning that he wants respect from everyone, but respect needs to be earned. If he treats people with respect, they will respect him back. Maybe he's too young to understand that concept. I would bring it up to the therapist, but apparently he's too concerned with the whole "no one loves me" saga.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 478856"] I'm sure that my difficult child is not the only one who does this, but it drives me up the wall! difficult child wants to be treated a certain way. He wants love, respect, kindness, all of the things that a child needs, wants, and deserves. If he thinks you are being mean to him, or if easy child calls him a name (idiot is the one most often thrown around in our house, and it's usually difficult child who starts it) you would think that the world was going to end from the way that he carries on. But if you turn the tables around, and it's difficult child who is rude to someone, the rules of the game change completely. He does not have to treat anyone with kindess or respect. He can call easy child any name he wants and we should just be okay with that, but if easy child does it to him? Temper tamtrum mode! On occasions when he has done something to easy child, name calling for example, I have tried to tell him that if it were easy child doing it to him he would be having a fit about it and demanding apologies left and right. Why is it okay for him to do it to easy child and not have to say that he's sorry for it? His answer is always, "I would not care. He can call me names. It doesn't bother me." Really? How do you all handle things like this? Apparently, I need to new way to approach this because I'm not getting anywhere with this. I told him this morning that he wants respect from everyone, but respect needs to be earned. If he treats people with respect, they will respect him back. Maybe he's too young to understand that concept. I would bring it up to the therapist, but apparently he's too concerned with the whole "no one loves me" saga. [/QUOTE]
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