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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 478928" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Yes, but that's the point... that is why it is so (insert suitable adjective) hard with these kids... Your two sons are not actually on an equal footing; it is easy for your younger boy to comply dutifully; for your older boy, complying dutifully is just not, it seems, within his range of possibilities. It is not a skill he has. I don't know why, really, but that's how it seems to be with these differently wired children. I don't know how good the analogy is, but it is perhaps a bit like organising a race between a two-legged man and a one-legged one; when the one-legged chap loses, rather inevitably, he gets "consequences". So either you can treat the difficult child taking into account his disabilities and difficulties and have an easier time of it, or treat the two boys equally and get a whole lot of grief, stress and upset for all the family.</p><p>Having said that, I personally find all of this blissfully easy in theory and sometimes excrutiatingly hard in practice. And I think it is probably MUCH easier when one just has one child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 478928, member: 11227"] Yes, but that's the point... that is why it is so (insert suitable adjective) hard with these kids... Your two sons are not actually on an equal footing; it is easy for your younger boy to comply dutifully; for your older boy, complying dutifully is just not, it seems, within his range of possibilities. It is not a skill he has. I don't know why, really, but that's how it seems to be with these differently wired children. I don't know how good the analogy is, but it is perhaps a bit like organising a race between a two-legged man and a one-legged one; when the one-legged chap loses, rather inevitably, he gets "consequences". So either you can treat the difficult child taking into account his disabilities and difficulties and have an easier time of it, or treat the two boys equally and get a whole lot of grief, stress and upset for all the family. Having said that, I personally find all of this blissfully easy in theory and sometimes excrutiatingly hard in practice. And I think it is probably MUCH easier when one just has one child. [/QUOTE]
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