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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 171795" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Oh, she sounds priceless!</p><p></p><p>Don't be concerned by this. It's not strictly difficult child. But another option to a day-long ban could have been making her clean up the crayon marks on the bed. After all, it's what you would have to do anyway. It could help her realize the direct consequences to using crayons inappropriately. </p><p></p><p>I've heard PCs do this sort of thing too. Don't sweat it.</p><p></p><p>But DO make a note of it in your records. Keep a file on her.</p><p></p><p>It's also very interesting logic. SHE is trying to punish YOU in her own little way. She is trying to control you, because she perceived that the aim of your punishment was to control her.</p><p></p><p>She missed the point.</p><p></p><p>But she is going to be a big behaviour problem later on, if she thinks now that it's all about control. You do need to nip THAT one in the bud.</p><p></p><p>Next time, try making the punishment more appropriate and more immediate (such as no ban, but any time she scribbles on anything inappropriately, she has to clean it off). Don't worry if the punishment seems too small for the crime (or otherwise) - if the message gets across even partly, you are winning.</p><p></p><p>easy child 2/difficult child 2 used to paint the walls of the toilet with excreta. She would be wiping herself, get some on her finger accidentally, then instead of using a bit of paper to wipe it off (and flushing it) she would wipe it on the wall.</p><p>So I got the spray bottle and a scrubbing brush, and made her scrub the walls untl they were clean. even when she said it wasn't her that did it, I still made her do it because I knew she HAD done it at some stage. And if I though one of the other kids had been responsible - they got to clean the walls next time.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 swats mosquitoes on the ceiling of his room and leaves the bloody carcasses there "as a warning to other mozzies". Again, scrubbing brush and spray bottle. I pointed to him out that mozzies don't have enough neurons in their entire bodies to understand warnings.</p><p>difficult child 1 went for a time without wearing deodorant, without washing enough, and generally being very smelly. His punishment - he had to do his own laundry, and nobody else wanted ANY of their washing mixed in with his. Separate load.</p><p></p><p>He learned to be cleaner. He also learned the tricks I use, to deodorise really smelly teen male clothing.</p><p></p><p>Your darling girl sounds SO much like easy child 2/difficult child 2 at that age.</p><p></p><p>Watch her like a hawk. Regarding my original assessment that you have a very bright child there - I think I'm right.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 171795, member: 1991"] Oh, she sounds priceless! Don't be concerned by this. It's not strictly difficult child. But another option to a day-long ban could have been making her clean up the crayon marks on the bed. After all, it's what you would have to do anyway. It could help her realize the direct consequences to using crayons inappropriately. I've heard PCs do this sort of thing too. Don't sweat it. But DO make a note of it in your records. Keep a file on her. It's also very interesting logic. SHE is trying to punish YOU in her own little way. She is trying to control you, because she perceived that the aim of your punishment was to control her. She missed the point. But she is going to be a big behaviour problem later on, if she thinks now that it's all about control. You do need to nip THAT one in the bud. Next time, try making the punishment more appropriate and more immediate (such as no ban, but any time she scribbles on anything inappropriately, she has to clean it off). Don't worry if the punishment seems too small for the crime (or otherwise) - if the message gets across even partly, you are winning. easy child 2/difficult child 2 used to paint the walls of the toilet with excreta. She would be wiping herself, get some on her finger accidentally, then instead of using a bit of paper to wipe it off (and flushing it) she would wipe it on the wall. So I got the spray bottle and a scrubbing brush, and made her scrub the walls untl they were clean. even when she said it wasn't her that did it, I still made her do it because I knew she HAD done it at some stage. And if I though one of the other kids had been responsible - they got to clean the walls next time. difficult child 1 swats mosquitoes on the ceiling of his room and leaves the bloody carcasses there "as a warning to other mozzies". Again, scrubbing brush and spray bottle. I pointed to him out that mozzies don't have enough neurons in their entire bodies to understand warnings. difficult child 1 went for a time without wearing deodorant, without washing enough, and generally being very smelly. His punishment - he had to do his own laundry, and nobody else wanted ANY of their washing mixed in with his. Separate load. He learned to be cleaner. He also learned the tricks I use, to deodorise really smelly teen male clothing. Your darling girl sounds SO much like easy child 2/difficult child 2 at that age. Watch her like a hawk. Regarding my original assessment that you have a very bright child there - I think I'm right. Marg [/QUOTE]
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