difficult child comes home tomorrow

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by threebabygirls, Aug 13, 2008.

  1. threebabygirls

    threebabygirls New Member

    She was at my sister in law's in NY for a few days, along with easy child 2. It's been a relaxing few days with easy child 1 and my 7 y.o. nephew. As much as I can't wait to see my girls, I'm dreading the first meltdown from difficult child, which most definitely will occur in the car on the way home. :dissapointed: I know she saves her "best" worst behavior for me because she feels the safest around me, but why oh why can't I have just one day with her without any tantrums?
  2. Andy

    Andy Active Member

    What a big trip for a little girl. Try pampering by setting up the car seat with lots of pillows and having cold water bottles and a healthy snack ready for the ride home. Have a favorite toy waiting on the car seat and another ready to pull out when you feel the tension rising (don't give right away).

    I remember when I was a very little girl and visited relatives for a few weeks. We were brought back as far as one relative's home late at night with plans to go home the next day. My sisters and I couldn't stand knowing how close to home we were and started crying so our aunt called our parents to come get us. We enjoyed our visit but was so looking forward to home.
  3. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    What a nice break for you! I can understand the wanting a day of no tantrums! I like Adrianne's idea of preparing fun stuff for the car ride.
  4. threebabygirls

    threebabygirls New Member

    It was a wonderful break for me and easy child 1, and I was relatively calm when the **** hit the fan 15 minutes into our ride home and handled it without losing my cool. It was so good to see difficult child and easy child 2, but easy child 1 was definitely not happy to have them back. ;) She liked having the toys to herself.
  5. Andy

    Andy Active Member

    Congratulations on staying cool. So, how does one keep their cool when the car ride gets so loud and intense? What did you do to get through?
  6. threebabygirls

    threebabygirls New Member

    I don't know how I did it, other than I had four blissful, tantrum-free days to regain my mental fortitude. That and I was so happy to see my babies!
  7. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    That break was a great time to recharge and replenish. Good on you for keeping your cool!
  8. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Yup, some time away can make one able to handle things better. in my humble opinion, this is true in every aspect of our lives. I feel myself start to spiral a bit when I have not had any down time or time alone.

    Glad you got a break!