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<blockquote data-quote="emotionallybankrupt" data-source="post: 313645" data-attributes="member: 8226"><p>It sounds to me like difficult child got a very sympathetic response from the police and a lot of positive attention. I sure hope that didn't function as a pay-off for him. I'm still wondering why they didn't charge him. I hope they somehow gave him a message that it is not okay to threaten people with sharp objects. I think for SOME kids, being cuffed and taken to kiddie jail, allowed to sit there a couple days without somebody posting bond, gets their attention. It at least sounds like a card that hasn't been played in your case.</p><p> </p><p>As for the time out for yourselves, I've become the queen of locked file cabinets and deadbolts. Many valuables can be secured that way. Usually, I could tell when a situation was about to escalate, giving me time to deadbolt my dogs in one of the rooms that had one. Yes, difficult child threatened property damage, and I worried about that, but I also explained to her that if she followed through, I would charge her with vandalism, and she knew I meant it. She didn't do it. </p><p> </p><p>As for HIDING my items? I'd take away something valuable to him in an instant, and I'd keep taking away more until my stuff re-appeared. A fact we tend to forget is that a minor owns nothing, even items purchased with their own money. Remembering that can give some powerful leverage.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="emotionallybankrupt, post: 313645, member: 8226"] It sounds to me like difficult child got a very sympathetic response from the police and a lot of positive attention. I sure hope that didn't function as a pay-off for him. I'm still wondering why they didn't charge him. I hope they somehow gave him a message that it is not okay to threaten people with sharp objects. I think for SOME kids, being cuffed and taken to kiddie jail, allowed to sit there a couple days without somebody posting bond, gets their attention. It at least sounds like a card that hasn't been played in your case. As for the time out for yourselves, I've become the queen of locked file cabinets and deadbolts. Many valuables can be secured that way. Usually, I could tell when a situation was about to escalate, giving me time to deadbolt my dogs in one of the rooms that had one. Yes, difficult child threatened property damage, and I worried about that, but I also explained to her that if she followed through, I would charge her with vandalism, and she knew I meant it. She didn't do it. As for HIDING my items? I'd take away something valuable to him in an instant, and I'd keep taking away more until my stuff re-appeared. A fact we tend to forget is that a minor owns nothing, even items purchased with their own money. Remembering that can give some powerful leverage. [/QUOTE]
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