Well it has been 5 months now, we have had 2 incidents of physcial aggression, 3 incidents of damaging propery, and 2 incidents of "running away". Have been through 1 room mate that is no longer there because his issues became too severe for this house. On a positive note, my difficult child is leaving the house with staff to go grocery shopping every other day or so. He would never even leave the house when he was here. He seems "happy" for the most part. He isn't saying he wants to kill himself daily. He is so handsome when he smiles. It has been so long. We went up and took him, and he invited his staff, to supper last night. He was wonderful. Polite and for the most part clean, only just a few incidents of name calling, when he got anxious. According to difficult child there is a "potential" room mate looking at the house. And "he has Asperger syndrome too". Hopefully it will be a much better match then the previous one. He actually seems pleased about it. It has been heart wrenching having him away from home. But, all things considered he has adjusted quite well. Better than husband and I, even tho, I must say, it is so nice not being called all kinds of vulgar names, and just to be able to relax when I get home is wonderful. I am quickly adjusting.