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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 629418" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Yes it does get easier.... I think you did absolutely the right thing not letting your younger son go with JT.....you need to protect him from the antics of JT. We have had to do that with our younger daughter.... and that is one of the main reasons we have not let my difficult child come and live again at home. There are other good reasons (like our own sanity) but the reason that I could stick with in my weaker moments was the need to protect my daughter from his shenanigans.</p><p></p><p>The pain and worry is there but I think with time, counseling, and support groups like alanon, you learn better ways to cope with it. And you learn that you have to take care of yourself, you have a right to live your life.</p><p></p><p>I know at one point I made a conscious decision not to let my difficult child and his choices ruin my life! He has his choices and there is nothing I can do about those but I can choose to enjoy my life.</p><p></p><p>And I do...and in moments of crisis my angst and obsession about him is less than it used to be.</p><p></p><p>So the key is to take care of yourself, find things you enjoy doing and do them. We love to travel and so we have taken several trips this year.... and yes we have worried some about him, but not enough to keep us from going or enjoying ourselves! Even this last trip when we found out he was in jail again while we were gone, I still had a good time!!!! Yes I might have relaxed more if he was doing well but I still had a good time with my husband and daughter.</p><p></p><p>It was coming home that got hard because then I had to face things.... but still he is not going to ruin my life. And dont let JT ruin yours!</p><p></p><p>TL</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 629418, member: 15801"] Yes it does get easier.... I think you did absolutely the right thing not letting your younger son go with JT.....you need to protect him from the antics of JT. We have had to do that with our younger daughter.... and that is one of the main reasons we have not let my difficult child come and live again at home. There are other good reasons (like our own sanity) but the reason that I could stick with in my weaker moments was the need to protect my daughter from his shenanigans. The pain and worry is there but I think with time, counseling, and support groups like alanon, you learn better ways to cope with it. And you learn that you have to take care of yourself, you have a right to live your life. I know at one point I made a conscious decision not to let my difficult child and his choices ruin my life! He has his choices and there is nothing I can do about those but I can choose to enjoy my life. And I do...and in moments of crisis my angst and obsession about him is less than it used to be. So the key is to take care of yourself, find things you enjoy doing and do them. We love to travel and so we have taken several trips this year.... and yes we have worried some about him, but not enough to keep us from going or enjoying ourselves! Even this last trip when we found out he was in jail again while we were gone, I still had a good time!!!! Yes I might have relaxed more if he was doing well but I still had a good time with my husband and daughter. It was coming home that got hard because then I had to face things.... but still he is not going to ruin my life. And dont let JT ruin yours! TL Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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