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I had lunch with difficult child today - 2 weeks in a row and they were both pleasant! Yippee!!
He has found a place to live - it's a small bedroom in a house shared with the landlord and 3 other renters. $590 a month which is super expensive in my opinion but rent in our area is very pricey.
So, difficult child has been to social services and I guess they match $0.50 for every dollar he makes at his job. IE> if he makes $100 they will give him $50.00. He is getting very low hours at his work and only making $240 a month right now which would amount to $360 with social services - not enough to make rent. He was offered another job at a clothing store starting right after Christmas. He figures if he gets 6 hours a week at the fast food place and 6 hours a week at the clothing store he'll make $480/month and SS will kick in $240 so that'll be $720. $130 for food and incidentals / month. I'm hoping he gets more hours so he has more $$ to eat.
We talked about the 2 churches in town that do community suppers. He has enough money from the sale of his dirtbike to cover 3 months rent (Dec, Jan, Feb). In the meantime he's going to have to start saving some money up for month 4. It's a month to month situation - no lease.
We also talked about ways to save on groceries - bulk oatmeal, dried beans (he hates beans but he may have to learn to love them), sales, etc..
He is moving in to the place on Wednesday. Kind of weird - he says he's quite happy to sleep on the floor and fold his clothes in piles. I offered him his bed, bedding and dresser - doesn't want them. He does want his alarm clock and the rest of his clothes.
He is nervous about being able to get out of bed on time and without letting his alarm go off for an hour and disturb everyone in the house. I guess when he was staying at his buddy's he did that and his buddy woke him up my smacking him across the face. LOL. Maybe it will occur to him that was has irritated us for so long also irritates most other people too. So, anyway, we discussed him going to bed much earlier (I don't think this will happen) in order to not sleep through his alarm clock.
And he is looking forward to this Sunday when he is coming here for Turkey dinner (early Christmas). He said he doesn't want anything for Christmas but I'm going to get him a nice teapot and some specialty teas (he loves tea) along with bus tickets, grocery gift cards, some cash, socks, underwear, that kind of thing.
He says "I'm living the dream." His dream really is to have a tiny place, very little money to live on and I guess the freedom and independence he figures goes with it. So he certainly has a tiny place and very little money. I wonder how much that will appeal to him when the rent is due and he doesn't have it? I hope he proves me wrong but I don't think it'll take more than 4 or 5 months for him to figure out that 'very little money' gets old really fast.
Another positive - his guitar teacher says he's already playing like someone who has 3 years experience and he's only been going there for 2 months. difficult child is proud of himself and I am too - he is really quite musically talented.
He has found a place to live - it's a small bedroom in a house shared with the landlord and 3 other renters. $590 a month which is super expensive in my opinion but rent in our area is very pricey.
So, difficult child has been to social services and I guess they match $0.50 for every dollar he makes at his job. IE> if he makes $100 they will give him $50.00. He is getting very low hours at his work and only making $240 a month right now which would amount to $360 with social services - not enough to make rent. He was offered another job at a clothing store starting right after Christmas. He figures if he gets 6 hours a week at the fast food place and 6 hours a week at the clothing store he'll make $480/month and SS will kick in $240 so that'll be $720. $130 for food and incidentals / month. I'm hoping he gets more hours so he has more $$ to eat.
We talked about the 2 churches in town that do community suppers. He has enough money from the sale of his dirtbike to cover 3 months rent (Dec, Jan, Feb). In the meantime he's going to have to start saving some money up for month 4. It's a month to month situation - no lease.
We also talked about ways to save on groceries - bulk oatmeal, dried beans (he hates beans but he may have to learn to love them), sales, etc..
He is moving in to the place on Wednesday. Kind of weird - he says he's quite happy to sleep on the floor and fold his clothes in piles. I offered him his bed, bedding and dresser - doesn't want them. He does want his alarm clock and the rest of his clothes.
He is nervous about being able to get out of bed on time and without letting his alarm go off for an hour and disturb everyone in the house. I guess when he was staying at his buddy's he did that and his buddy woke him up my smacking him across the face. LOL. Maybe it will occur to him that was has irritated us for so long also irritates most other people too. So, anyway, we discussed him going to bed much earlier (I don't think this will happen) in order to not sleep through his alarm clock.
And he is looking forward to this Sunday when he is coming here for Turkey dinner (early Christmas). He said he doesn't want anything for Christmas but I'm going to get him a nice teapot and some specialty teas (he loves tea) along with bus tickets, grocery gift cards, some cash, socks, underwear, that kind of thing.
He says "I'm living the dream." His dream really is to have a tiny place, very little money to live on and I guess the freedom and independence he figures goes with it. So he certainly has a tiny place and very little money. I wonder how much that will appeal to him when the rent is due and he doesn't have it? I hope he proves me wrong but I don't think it'll take more than 4 or 5 months for him to figure out that 'very little money' gets old really fast.
Another positive - his guitar teacher says he's already playing like someone who has 3 years experience and he's only been going there for 2 months. difficult child is proud of himself and I am too - he is really quite musically talented.
I remember my first apartment was 60.00 a week, came fully furnished with maid service twice a week. I thought I had died and gone to heaven. 
