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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 612922" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Honestly difficult child needs to learn to attach to the right people but do you really want him to learn to attach to his team TOO much. Reality is he is a professional athlete. Making short term friends is part of the deal. I will once again compare it to the Army. When we make a friend we know we may lose them soon. IE: they could be getting moved. It happens all the time. We learn to make the best of the time we have and then if it is a real friendship maintain it long distance. You lose people along the way but the good ones are still there. </p><p></p><p>difficult child has a hard time with the drama, being a temporary piece of the puzzle leaves him outside the drama as long as no one is hating on him for being a fill in. Plus he can take the good and leave the bad. He doesn't have to learn to love the crappy coach he just has to survive them for a little while. </p><p></p><p>I guess what I am saying is that while you may want difficult child to attach it may be that he doesn't need it so much. As a woman I know I have felt that way at times when dealing with my husband and kids. I want them to have that warm and fuzzy safe haven but reality is some jobs and some groups are more of a keep your head down and do your job situation. in my humble opinion pro sports seem to be that way. Athletes learn to play hard together and then walk away when a trade/injury happens. If they make friends along the way fine. If not, men in particular, just don't seem to care that much.</p><p></p><p>You say difficult child is ill suited to picket fences so he may love the ability to move around and do what he loves without the commitments. Plus some people like myself prefer short term jobs where we can go in and do the job and then move on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 612922, member: 15473"] Honestly difficult child needs to learn to attach to the right people but do you really want him to learn to attach to his team TOO much. Reality is he is a professional athlete. Making short term friends is part of the deal. I will once again compare it to the Army. When we make a friend we know we may lose them soon. IE: they could be getting moved. It happens all the time. We learn to make the best of the time we have and then if it is a real friendship maintain it long distance. You lose people along the way but the good ones are still there. difficult child has a hard time with the drama, being a temporary piece of the puzzle leaves him outside the drama as long as no one is hating on him for being a fill in. Plus he can take the good and leave the bad. He doesn't have to learn to love the crappy coach he just has to survive them for a little while. I guess what I am saying is that while you may want difficult child to attach it may be that he doesn't need it so much. As a woman I know I have felt that way at times when dealing with my husband and kids. I want them to have that warm and fuzzy safe haven but reality is some jobs and some groups are more of a keep your head down and do your job situation. in my humble opinion pro sports seem to be that way. Athletes learn to play hard together and then walk away when a trade/injury happens. If they make friends along the way fine. If not, men in particular, just don't seem to care that much. You say difficult child is ill suited to picket fences so he may love the ability to move around and do what he loves without the commitments. Plus some people like myself prefer short term jobs where we can go in and do the job and then move on. [/QUOTE]
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