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difficult child had his psychiatrist appointment and has a diagnosis - finally
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 540442" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Thank you all for your kind words. They are much appreciated. This thing really rattles foundations of my life. These kids who bullied difficult child are no strangers for me, I have known them most of their life, I know their parents, many cases I know their grandparents some of their brothers and sisters are close friends of my easy child. These are people we are friendly with. We meet often around neighbourhood, we have get-togehters etc. We are a tight community. And just now I have a really hard time relating to the kids who bullied difficult child and even their parents.</p><p></p><p>Luckily difficult child seems to be doing okay. He did tell about diagnosis to his girlfriend and she didn't get too spooked. That is a very good thing. While I don't really believe the longevity of this relationship, I do hope that difficult child is more stable, when they break up. So I really much hope they stay together at least a year or more. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against difficult child's girlfriend, she seems like a nice girl and she is certainly good for him, but they are just so young and I don't really see any long term attraction between them. Of course I could be wrong, but I suspect that big part of difficult child's attractiveness for this girl is him being a well-known athlete in that small town. I don't believe that she would had looked him twice, if he would had been just another engineering student (there is a big engineering college in the town...) And to be honest, I also think that when difficult child matures, he may be attracted on little different type of girl than his girlfriend. Girlfriend is a type of girl he certainly thinks he <strong>should </strong>be attracted, but when he learns to be more true to himself, that may change. difficult child's girlfriend is a type of girl I could see my easy child marrying, but I have an inkling that difficult child's life partner may be a little different type of person in the end. Of course I may be wrong and they may stay together rest of their lives or difficult child's will end up marrying other pretty, popular, preppy and perky cheerleader type girl and easy child will be the one who marries a quirky goth punk rocker with twenty safety pins on her (or his) face. Who knows?</p><p></p><p>Just now I'm happy that difficult child is together with this girl, who I think is very good for him. She is very popular and social, has lots of friends and likes to spend time with them. And she takes difficult child with her and her friends do include difficult child to their activities. And that is something that does a world of good for difficult child in so many ways. It makes it easier for him, that he is having troubles with his team mates, he doesn't need to feel alone in the town he knows few people, and he has opportunities to observe, model and train appropriate social skills. And it likely does wonders to his self-esteem that he is included. Of course he is likely to be smart enough to understand, that being a pro-athlete and some perks that come with it are part of the reason, they want to hang out with him (for example he can get them to the night clubs that don't usually accept customers as young as they are etc.) but still it is positive experience for him.</p><p></p><p>If difficult child will consider therapy as an option is still very much in the air, but at least he is willing to talk it out with the psychiatric nurse and psychiatrist.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 540442, member: 14557"] Thank you all for your kind words. They are much appreciated. This thing really rattles foundations of my life. These kids who bullied difficult child are no strangers for me, I have known them most of their life, I know their parents, many cases I know their grandparents some of their brothers and sisters are close friends of my easy child. These are people we are friendly with. We meet often around neighbourhood, we have get-togehters etc. We are a tight community. And just now I have a really hard time relating to the kids who bullied difficult child and even their parents. Luckily difficult child seems to be doing okay. He did tell about diagnosis to his girlfriend and she didn't get too spooked. That is a very good thing. While I don't really believe the longevity of this relationship, I do hope that difficult child is more stable, when they break up. So I really much hope they stay together at least a year or more. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against difficult child's girlfriend, she seems like a nice girl and she is certainly good for him, but they are just so young and I don't really see any long term attraction between them. Of course I could be wrong, but I suspect that big part of difficult child's attractiveness for this girl is him being a well-known athlete in that small town. I don't believe that she would had looked him twice, if he would had been just another engineering student (there is a big engineering college in the town...) And to be honest, I also think that when difficult child matures, he may be attracted on little different type of girl than his girlfriend. Girlfriend is a type of girl he certainly thinks he [B]should [/B]be attracted, but when he learns to be more true to himself, that may change. difficult child's girlfriend is a type of girl I could see my easy child marrying, but I have an inkling that difficult child's life partner may be a little different type of person in the end. Of course I may be wrong and they may stay together rest of their lives or difficult child's will end up marrying other pretty, popular, preppy and perky cheerleader type girl and easy child will be the one who marries a quirky goth punk rocker with twenty safety pins on her (or his) face. Who knows? Just now I'm happy that difficult child is together with this girl, who I think is very good for him. She is very popular and social, has lots of friends and likes to spend time with them. And she takes difficult child with her and her friends do include difficult child to their activities. And that is something that does a world of good for difficult child in so many ways. It makes it easier for him, that he is having troubles with his team mates, he doesn't need to feel alone in the town he knows few people, and he has opportunities to observe, model and train appropriate social skills. And it likely does wonders to his self-esteem that he is included. Of course he is likely to be smart enough to understand, that being a pro-athlete and some perks that come with it are part of the reason, they want to hang out with him (for example he can get them to the night clubs that don't usually accept customers as young as they are etc.) but still it is positive experience for him. If difficult child will consider therapy as an option is still very much in the air, but at least he is willing to talk it out with the psychiatric nurse and psychiatrist. [/QUOTE]
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