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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 535056" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That is truly horrible. I can't even start to imagine how that child parents or caregivers are feeling. They called to get help with and to thei child and ended up with the child killed by those exact people they hoped would help them. That has to be unbearable. So very sad!</p><p></p><p>We, luckily, have anything but trigger-happy police there we live. Sometimes our tv channels buy a bulk of cheap programs to broadcast outside their prime time and during the summer and some of those tend to be different kinds of reality shows from US. So at times we have these reality cop shows there they show a real feed from how police works in USA. I understand they choose more dramatic stuff there but still the difference is huge. We also have our local reality police series and it is really very easy to notice how different strategy they use. In US shows guns are often drawn, tasers are used, they give clear commands and suspects etc. are commanded to the ground etc. In our show in the same kind of situations the cops behave like kindergarten teachers with four-year-olds. That is also how our cops often refer to themselves, kindergarten teachers for drunken adults. We do have much less handguns around and our patrol police's always work in pairs so that makes it possible for them to use different tactics, but it is also philosophical difference. Their main goal is to de-escalate and calm down the situation and they are educated to use verbal judo as their main tactic when dealing with public. And it is amazing how well they usually do that. And if that doesn't help, it is usually a wrestling match that follows. Only if they know the suspect is armed and likely to use the gun (mainly if they are against biker gangs or bigtime drug suspects or other organized crime) they tend to use harder measures. It also helps that police is very trusted and respected by general public. We have a family friend who has been a patrol officer in our biggest city 20 years. At that time he says that he has drawn his gun twice outside of practise grounds or dealing with animals. Haven't shot even once expect to emergency euthanatize an animal after it has been hurt and has used taser on human three times. </p><p></p><p>But yeah, there are so many dangers in world and it is so hard to let your child go and try themselves. I can't even imagine how hard it has to be for you or other parents who have especially vulnerable kids. My kids, even difficult child, at least should be able to recognize and understand the biggest dangers and be capable of trying to avoid them. Of course they, especially difficult child, are prone to foolhardiness, and could get themselves killed while trying something totally stupid. I do worry about driving etc. Luckily our kids are not allowed to drive before they are 18 (I would be so freaked, if my easy child would be allowed to drive a month from now then he turns 16) and difficult child's first car is through his team. The team has sponsorship deal with car dealership and players can get leasing cars with very affordable co-pay from themselves, but cars are in team colours, has team logo and the player's name on it as well as name on car dealership. It isn't very tempting to speed or do other stupid stuff with that recognizable cars, especially when living in the smallish town where almost everyone knows them and at least knows the team... And the team management also knows their boys well and that they are in risk of being foolhardy (not just my difficult child, goes with most of them, competitive young men tend to be like that.) So cars available for them tend to be the ones that really don't tempt them to for example try how fast you can drive (they are mainly compact cars like for example Ford Focus or Honda Civic.) So that lessens my worries some. But of course difficult child is able to come up with so much stupid stuff... </p><p></p><p>I wasn't at all religious before I became a mother (your basic European secular protestant, who is member of their church for tradition and to support service work etc. but doesn't really practise expect going to church for Christmas and family affairs and doesn't know if they are agnostic or maybe believe in something) but after that I have found that at times my only solace is a hope that there is a God and my boys are in His hands.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 535056, member: 14557"] That is truly horrible. I can't even start to imagine how that child parents or caregivers are feeling. They called to get help with and to thei child and ended up with the child killed by those exact people they hoped would help them. That has to be unbearable. So very sad! We, luckily, have anything but trigger-happy police there we live. Sometimes our tv channels buy a bulk of cheap programs to broadcast outside their prime time and during the summer and some of those tend to be different kinds of reality shows from US. So at times we have these reality cop shows there they show a real feed from how police works in USA. I understand they choose more dramatic stuff there but still the difference is huge. We also have our local reality police series and it is really very easy to notice how different strategy they use. In US shows guns are often drawn, tasers are used, they give clear commands and suspects etc. are commanded to the ground etc. In our show in the same kind of situations the cops behave like kindergarten teachers with four-year-olds. That is also how our cops often refer to themselves, kindergarten teachers for drunken adults. We do have much less handguns around and our patrol police's always work in pairs so that makes it possible for them to use different tactics, but it is also philosophical difference. Their main goal is to de-escalate and calm down the situation and they are educated to use verbal judo as their main tactic when dealing with public. And it is amazing how well they usually do that. And if that doesn't help, it is usually a wrestling match that follows. Only if they know the suspect is armed and likely to use the gun (mainly if they are against biker gangs or bigtime drug suspects or other organized crime) they tend to use harder measures. It also helps that police is very trusted and respected by general public. We have a family friend who has been a patrol officer in our biggest city 20 years. At that time he says that he has drawn his gun twice outside of practise grounds or dealing with animals. Haven't shot even once expect to emergency euthanatize an animal after it has been hurt and has used taser on human three times. But yeah, there are so many dangers in world and it is so hard to let your child go and try themselves. I can't even imagine how hard it has to be for you or other parents who have especially vulnerable kids. My kids, even difficult child, at least should be able to recognize and understand the biggest dangers and be capable of trying to avoid them. Of course they, especially difficult child, are prone to foolhardiness, and could get themselves killed while trying something totally stupid. I do worry about driving etc. Luckily our kids are not allowed to drive before they are 18 (I would be so freaked, if my easy child would be allowed to drive a month from now then he turns 16) and difficult child's first car is through his team. The team has sponsorship deal with car dealership and players can get leasing cars with very affordable co-pay from themselves, but cars are in team colours, has team logo and the player's name on it as well as name on car dealership. It isn't very tempting to speed or do other stupid stuff with that recognizable cars, especially when living in the smallish town where almost everyone knows them and at least knows the team... And the team management also knows their boys well and that they are in risk of being foolhardy (not just my difficult child, goes with most of them, competitive young men tend to be like that.) So cars available for them tend to be the ones that really don't tempt them to for example try how fast you can drive (they are mainly compact cars like for example Ford Focus or Honda Civic.) So that lessens my worries some. But of course difficult child is able to come up with so much stupid stuff... I wasn't at all religious before I became a mother (your basic European secular protestant, who is member of their church for tradition and to support service work etc. but doesn't really practise expect going to church for Christmas and family affairs and doesn't know if they are agnostic or maybe believe in something) but after that I have found that at times my only solace is a hope that there is a God and my boys are in His hands. [/QUOTE]
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