I am sure he's also sold lots of things we don't know about from year's past. He took everything from his room - including some religious jewelry he had received and his football championship ring. We live in a smaller town and I have a saved search on ebay of things located in our zip. difficult child's seller ID popped up (same as his email) one day and I added him as a "favorite seller." On that day (august) he was selling the $$ sunglasses we gave him for his Confirmation (no big deal-he never wore them) I don't check ebay often - but I did about a month ago and he was selling the blue ray player we gave him for his birthday last March. Checked again today and sure enough his Xbox, his phone and Xbox accessories and games are for sale. And when we visited his apt last month, his TV was not there. (Christmas 2010) On one hand, "a gift is the receivers to do with as he pleases..." On the other hand - we are giving him a new laptop (desperately needed) for Christmas/birthday and his grandma is giving him an ipad. I wonder if we should even bother... likely they both end up being sold... Can I say something like - "let me know if you plan to sell it - I will return it instead and give you the cash?" Not that I want to give him cash...yet I hate to see expensive things going for a fraction of what was paid originally... We are not financially supporting him otherwise and I guess I know he likely NEEDS to sell stuff to stay afloat in his current situation. I suppose it's better that he sell his stuff legitimately and get money honestly. We are all ready a bit tormented about getting him Christmas gifts given everything we know - yet treating him differently from his brothers (at this point) would be hurtful and probably inflammatory. I JUST HATE THIS SITUATION ENTIRELY. And fighting the urge to kidnap him from school and lock him in his room at home until he comes to his senses...WHY IS HE (WILLINGLY) MAKING SUCH A MESS OUT OF HIS LIFE??? I guess I am not looking for answers as much as I need to reach out...none of this makes any sense to me and this is hitting me hard right now.