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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 256881" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry. I know how horrible it feels to be told your child has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).</p><p></p><p>In our case we were told Wiz had Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) because he had a botched surgery at 18 months and he had bad ear infections that needed tubes. By botched I mean it was urinary surgery to do 2 procedures and teh anesth doctor refused to listen and gave the wrong medications and Wiz WOKE UP during the surgery. At 18 months he could DESCRIBE the surgery - it was the first indication we had that anything went wrong!!</p><p></p><p>It was a totally WRONG diagnosis for Wiz. He is an Aspie. The same things that they said were Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) were Asperger's and Sensory Integration Disorder. The botched surgery hurt, he needed therapy for that. </p><p></p><p>2 working parents does NOT cause Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). In our case I was a student with a relative who left $ so I did not have to work and go to school with a young baby. Gotta love my Gma!! Wiz was in a good daycare with caregivers who really CARED for about 10 weeks. He kept getting sick and our doctor finally said he couldn't be in daycare, he needed a private sitter or a parent at home. His immune system couldn't handle it.</p><p></p><p>So we found a neighbor of my parents to babysit. I babysat her kids when I was in high school She is one of the top 5 moms I have EVER had the honor and privilege to know. To this day I often approach new parenting situations with "What would M do?"</p><p></p><p>She DOTED on Wiz. Loved him, taught him,cared for him in every way. For over 2 years! </p><p></p><p>So NOWAY was Wiz Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). He was also FULLY attached to husband and I. We were very close, and in many ways still are close emotionally. </p><p></p><p>ALWAYS follow your mommy instincts. YOU are with your child every day. The "experts" are with him maybe an hour a week, at MOST. YOU loved and care for this child every day of his life. saying he had Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) because you worked is horse manure. </p><p></p><p>And it is WRONG.</p><p></p><p>Your son may have an attachment disorder, but I would be willing to bet not Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). And I don't bet.</p><p></p><p>Keep pushing on the aspie diagnosis and treatment. See a neuropsychologist or have a multidisciplinary evaluation done. See an occupational therapist to check for sensory issues. MANY people with autistic spectrum disorders have significant sensory issues.</p><p></p><p>With Wiz he really became more able to handle things when we did the brushing therapy for sensory integration disorder. ANd with my thank you early intervention on the sensory issues has helped him to the point that the docs all say he has sensory integration disorder and does NOT have any autistic spectrum disorder. And I REALLY thought he would have an aspie diagnosis - he had quite a few red flags.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I mean from all of this is that just because some "expert" said it is Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) doesn't make it so. Keep pushing, finding other experts to evaluate and try to help until YOU are satisfied that you have the RIGHT diagnosis and treatment.</p><p></p><p>by the way, many Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) treatments are either highly controversial, banned in this country, or NOT recommended for kids who have other disorders. The treatment is very much not something for a child who does not have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). So be VERY sure about it before you begin any intensive therapy. Linda (timerlady) will have more info on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) when she is back around.</p><p></p><p>Take some time and just BREATHE. Let yourself relax. Do something nice for yourself - you EARNED it listening to that diagnosis and researching it and wondering about it. It is a very scary diagnosis to face.</p><p></p><p>Then start looking for a neuropsychologist and other docs to help!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 256881, member: 1233"] I am sorry. I know how horrible it feels to be told your child has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). In our case we were told Wiz had Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) because he had a botched surgery at 18 months and he had bad ear infections that needed tubes. By botched I mean it was urinary surgery to do 2 procedures and teh anesth doctor refused to listen and gave the wrong medications and Wiz WOKE UP during the surgery. At 18 months he could DESCRIBE the surgery - it was the first indication we had that anything went wrong!! It was a totally WRONG diagnosis for Wiz. He is an Aspie. The same things that they said were Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) were Asperger's and Sensory Integration Disorder. The botched surgery hurt, he needed therapy for that. 2 working parents does NOT cause Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). In our case I was a student with a relative who left $ so I did not have to work and go to school with a young baby. Gotta love my Gma!! Wiz was in a good daycare with caregivers who really CARED for about 10 weeks. He kept getting sick and our doctor finally said he couldn't be in daycare, he needed a private sitter or a parent at home. His immune system couldn't handle it. So we found a neighbor of my parents to babysit. I babysat her kids when I was in high school She is one of the top 5 moms I have EVER had the honor and privilege to know. To this day I often approach new parenting situations with "What would M do?" She DOTED on Wiz. Loved him, taught him,cared for him in every way. For over 2 years! So NOWAY was Wiz Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). He was also FULLY attached to husband and I. We were very close, and in many ways still are close emotionally. ALWAYS follow your mommy instincts. YOU are with your child every day. The "experts" are with him maybe an hour a week, at MOST. YOU loved and care for this child every day of his life. saying he had Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) because you worked is horse manure. And it is WRONG. Your son may have an attachment disorder, but I would be willing to bet not Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). And I don't bet. Keep pushing on the aspie diagnosis and treatment. See a neuropsychologist or have a multidisciplinary evaluation done. See an occupational therapist to check for sensory issues. MANY people with autistic spectrum disorders have significant sensory issues. With Wiz he really became more able to handle things when we did the brushing therapy for sensory integration disorder. ANd with my thank you early intervention on the sensory issues has helped him to the point that the docs all say he has sensory integration disorder and does NOT have any autistic spectrum disorder. And I REALLY thought he would have an aspie diagnosis - he had quite a few red flags. I guess what I mean from all of this is that just because some "expert" said it is Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) doesn't make it so. Keep pushing, finding other experts to evaluate and try to help until YOU are satisfied that you have the RIGHT diagnosis and treatment. by the way, many Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) treatments are either highly controversial, banned in this country, or NOT recommended for kids who have other disorders. The treatment is very much not something for a child who does not have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). So be VERY sure about it before you begin any intensive therapy. Linda (timerlady) will have more info on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) when she is back around. Take some time and just BREATHE. Let yourself relax. Do something nice for yourself - you EARNED it listening to that diagnosis and researching it and wondering about it. It is a very scary diagnosis to face. Then start looking for a neuropsychologist and other docs to help! [/QUOTE]
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