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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 570739" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I have been through these choices too. Circumstances were little different but ultimately it was a choice to let our very immature, young for his age, risk-taker, foolish, drastically under-skilled for a task managing his own life, idiot 17-year-old-child to go and pursue his dreams hours away from home, with some supervision and support but mostly swim or sink fashion. He is still floundering on the surface, more or less, and is in fact some ways getting better in his swimming attempts. And being able to keep his nose over surface this long has bought him lots more support, that certainly helps. But when we let him go, it was major gamble and odds were against us.</p><p></p><p>But crushing his dreams, forcing him to take an other path, to be even partly in blame (he mostly did it himself, without his own screw ups he would had a change to live home and chase those dreams) just seemed so drastic decision that wouldn't have led to anything good. Not for him, not for our relationship, not for anything.</p><p></p><p>When you teach your kid to ride a bike, there is that moment when you have to let go even though you know they will likely fall and hurt themselves. But still you have to, you can't keep them up and still let them learn to ride. You just have to let go and pray for the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 570739, member: 14557"] I have been through these choices too. Circumstances were little different but ultimately it was a choice to let our very immature, young for his age, risk-taker, foolish, drastically under-skilled for a task managing his own life, idiot 17-year-old-child to go and pursue his dreams hours away from home, with some supervision and support but mostly swim or sink fashion. He is still floundering on the surface, more or less, and is in fact some ways getting better in his swimming attempts. And being able to keep his nose over surface this long has bought him lots more support, that certainly helps. But when we let him go, it was major gamble and odds were against us. But crushing his dreams, forcing him to take an other path, to be even partly in blame (he mostly did it himself, without his own screw ups he would had a change to live home and chase those dreams) just seemed so drastic decision that wouldn't have led to anything good. Not for him, not for our relationship, not for anything. When you teach your kid to ride a bike, there is that moment when you have to let go even though you know they will likely fall and hurt themselves. But still you have to, you can't keep them up and still let them learn to ride. You just have to let go and pray for the best. [/QUOTE]
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