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difficult child - Home from school for 16 Days now!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 558363" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We went through something similar, although in difficult child 3's case it was mainstream placement that was wrong but we couldn't get him anywhere else. When difficult child 3 began to display symptoms of various physical illnesses, nausea, vomiting, low-grade fevers etc, his class teacher (who was a martinet but I do think she really cared about her students) insisted vehemently that we had to find out what was wrong with him and any doctor saying it was just anxiety - tell them to talk to her, she said. She'd set them straight.</p><p></p><p>So we searched for nonexistent answers and meanwhile difficult child 3 stayed home from school while ever he was vomiting or throwing a fever. He wanted to be at school but felt too sick. I didn't want to 'reward' illness and especially did not want a conditioned response to build up of rewarding illness with a holiday from school, so we used the home time to get schoolwork done. I couldn't get enough work form the school so I got my own. And in the process, I discovered that difficult child 3 learns a different way; that just about everything he had done in all his schooling, had not sunk in and he knew only what he had studied at home; and that my life was a lot easier and manageable, than when he was sent to school and I sat on tenterhooks waiting for the phone call to come get him, to interrupt my day.</p><p></p><p>We were not officially home-schooling him in this time. I simply bought some computer software (educational stuff) and books, to give him more work when he ran out of school-issued work. I sent the work he did back to the school, we never saw it again. No feedback. </p><p></p><p>And despite all these problems, so obviously serious issues interfering with his education, the officials would not provide alternative placement.</p><p></p><p>What I did do - ANY official beginning to get nasty about difficult child 3's absences from school, got short shrift from me. "You fix the problems, he will go back to school. But this placement is not working. His education is not being neglected, but only because I'm working with him. I shouldn't have to do your job for you. If you try anything, I'll make sure to tell the court system that."</p><p></p><p>As I said on another thread - it is the people on this site who gave me the backbone to do and say what was needed back then. </p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 558363, member: 1991"] We went through something similar, although in difficult child 3's case it was mainstream placement that was wrong but we couldn't get him anywhere else. When difficult child 3 began to display symptoms of various physical illnesses, nausea, vomiting, low-grade fevers etc, his class teacher (who was a martinet but I do think she really cared about her students) insisted vehemently that we had to find out what was wrong with him and any doctor saying it was just anxiety - tell them to talk to her, she said. She'd set them straight. So we searched for nonexistent answers and meanwhile difficult child 3 stayed home from school while ever he was vomiting or throwing a fever. He wanted to be at school but felt too sick. I didn't want to 'reward' illness and especially did not want a conditioned response to build up of rewarding illness with a holiday from school, so we used the home time to get schoolwork done. I couldn't get enough work form the school so I got my own. And in the process, I discovered that difficult child 3 learns a different way; that just about everything he had done in all his schooling, had not sunk in and he knew only what he had studied at home; and that my life was a lot easier and manageable, than when he was sent to school and I sat on tenterhooks waiting for the phone call to come get him, to interrupt my day. We were not officially home-schooling him in this time. I simply bought some computer software (educational stuff) and books, to give him more work when he ran out of school-issued work. I sent the work he did back to the school, we never saw it again. No feedback. And despite all these problems, so obviously serious issues interfering with his education, the officials would not provide alternative placement. What I did do - ANY official beginning to get nasty about difficult child 3's absences from school, got short shrift from me. "You fix the problems, he will go back to school. But this placement is not working. His education is not being neglected, but only because I'm working with him. I shouldn't have to do your job for you. If you try anything, I'll make sure to tell the court system that." As I said on another thread - it is the people on this site who gave me the backbone to do and say what was needed back then. Marg [/QUOTE]
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