Not quite six weeks since we evicted difficult child permanently. easy child 1 has spent the night with difficult child at difficult child's girlfriend Erica's house, where she currently is squatting, three times without any major lapse on difficult child's part, although bedtime/meals/bathing are haphazard at best. The most recent time was two nights ago. wife had to check in for an outpatient thing yesterday at 5:30 a.m., and I needed to go with her. difficult child volunteered to have easy child 1 spend the night rather than us dragging easy child 1 out of bed and along with us. That went fine. I got wife home and resting comfortably and laid down for a couple of hours myself. Then I called Erica's to say I was coming over to get easy child 1. difficult child says, "Mom said I could stay overnight there sometime, so I can spend more time with easy child 1. Can I make it tonight?" (wife had actually said that we would consider it at some future time, not "You're invited, name a day.") I was loathe to wake up wife and verify. The upshot was, that I caved. difficult child was a model of perfection for, oh, about three hours. Picking up behind herself, engaging with easy child 1, even unloaded the dishwasher. She gets an A for those three hours, and a big fat F for the next 21, hence the D+ overall. I left to run some errands. easy child 1 went to play across the street. wife was sleeping. So difficult child decided to catch a nap -- out of sight, out of mind, I guess. As soon as she was asleep, easy child 1 and friend came back over to our house (they run back and forth all the time), fixed themselves chocolate milk, and spilled a big old cup all over the sofa. wife heard the commotion and being the type-A that she is when confronted with a disaster in her living room, kicked into high gear, stripping off cushion covers, spraying spot remover, blotting with paper towels, etc., all this activity being against strict medical prohibitions. Then it dawned on her, where is difficult child? So she woke up difficult child, asked her to finish cleaning up and please keep an eye on the kids, and laid back down. What does difficult child do? Sends the kids back across the street and goes back to bed, leaving piles of chocolate-milk-soaked paper towels lying on the floor. So anyway, I could go on, but suffice it to say that difficult child regarded her visit to "spend time with easy child 1" as a free stay at the Mom-and-Pop Motel, with TV, room phone, and air conditioning, and meals, snacks, and maid service provided. So I was thinking of the following guidelines for future "spending time with easy child 1": - difficult child to provide own transportation. - difficult child to spend time one-on-one with easy child 1, not sleep, watch TV, read email, or talk on phone. - Visits to be scheduled and kept, no-shows to result in temporary suspension of visitation privileges. Reasonable?