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<blockquote data-quote="ready2run" data-source="post: 468242" data-attributes="member: 11339"><p>he does not work. he won't and he can't seem to hold down a job anyways. he gets too frustrated and he isn't careful so it never works out well. i can't because i can't leave the kids with him all day. i gave up my career when difficult child (his son) moved in with us and i figured out that husband could not care for him and no daycare would take him. so the money we get right now is a disability amount that i get for myself(for stress and anxiety, i can't imagine where that comes from) and difficult child's money. the money comes in my name and into our account. my credit card was hooked up through paypal which is how he got access to it. he does seem to think he is entitled to all sorts of things because he is 'the man' and that it shouldn't matter what happens to the money i get because it was free anyways. well, other than costing me my sanity i suppose. he knows what the bills are but for some reason can't connect that 1+1+1=3 and that i need what is there to pay for what we need and can't afford everything we could ever want. i cannot even keep cash in my wallet anymore as it disappears on me and he always says he doesn't know what happened to it but the kids are not old enough to take my money other than my 12yo but she never buys anything and hates malls/shopping and won't try anything new so i know she's not taking it. it's just so frustrating because it doesn't matter how many times i try to explain it, he always says he knows and then keeps going on the path he's on like i didn't say anything. in the past i have cut him off from all money and even had our internet cut off at one point because i could not get him to get off the computer and help with the kids. now he only goes on it when they are napping/asleep or he at least asks for permission first and has to have had some chores done or spent time with the kids.(which i know is not right but it has to be like that.) he is like a 30+ year old teenager living in my basement.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ready2run, post: 468242, member: 11339"] he does not work. he won't and he can't seem to hold down a job anyways. he gets too frustrated and he isn't careful so it never works out well. i can't because i can't leave the kids with him all day. i gave up my career when difficult child (his son) moved in with us and i figured out that husband could not care for him and no daycare would take him. so the money we get right now is a disability amount that i get for myself(for stress and anxiety, i can't imagine where that comes from) and difficult child's money. the money comes in my name and into our account. my credit card was hooked up through paypal which is how he got access to it. he does seem to think he is entitled to all sorts of things because he is 'the man' and that it shouldn't matter what happens to the money i get because it was free anyways. well, other than costing me my sanity i suppose. he knows what the bills are but for some reason can't connect that 1+1+1=3 and that i need what is there to pay for what we need and can't afford everything we could ever want. i cannot even keep cash in my wallet anymore as it disappears on me and he always says he doesn't know what happened to it but the kids are not old enough to take my money other than my 12yo but she never buys anything and hates malls/shopping and won't try anything new so i know she's not taking it. it's just so frustrating because it doesn't matter how many times i try to explain it, he always says he knows and then keeps going on the path he's on like i didn't say anything. in the past i have cut him off from all money and even had our internet cut off at one point because i could not get him to get off the computer and help with the kids. now he only goes on it when they are napping/asleep or he at least asks for permission first and has to have had some chores done or spent time with the kids.(which i know is not right but it has to be like that.) he is like a 30+ year old teenager living in my basement. [/QUOTE]
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