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<blockquote data-quote="HereWeGoAgain" data-source="post: 264518" data-attributes="member: 3485"><p>difficult child's been in this program almost 3 weeks now. </p><p> </p><p>I'm in the doghouse with wife. Last Saturday we had scheduled to attend family group. Well, it clean slipped my mind, and I was out washing the car of all things when the appointment came and went. We only have the one car, so wife couldn't go without me. I came home and was hit with both barrels -- all the baggage from 20 years came out: "you always hated her", "you just don't care", "well now you've got things your way you're happy to just forget she ever existed", and so on. Well, yeah, I did forget, and I am happy to be free of the continuous drama. I fired back with "it's called detachment"; response: "oh yeah, you're <strong><em>very good</em></strong> at that, aren't you? You didn't give birth to her and know her for the first nine years, [true enough] so it's easy for you [not true]".</p><p> </p><p>I was at fault for forgetting, but then again I was the one who went through utter hell that night four weeks ago getting difficult child to the crisis center (cops, ambulance, the whole nine yards) which gave her the chance to get in this program in the first place. And I have been through the whole time since difficult child's behaviors began, 15 or 16 years now, right there alongside wife, so I don't feel like I'm such a big heel as all that.</p><p> </p><p>Anyhow, relations in the HWGA house have been frosty for several days. But this too shall pass. I did apologize profusely for forgetting the appointment. I also suggested a families anon. meeting, but she "knows all that c**p already" and "already knows she is too involved but she can't just 'give up'".</p><p> </p><p>[PS - witz, I just noticed the quote in your signature and it cracked me up.]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HereWeGoAgain, post: 264518, member: 3485"] difficult child's been in this program almost 3 weeks now. I'm in the doghouse with wife. Last Saturday we had scheduled to attend family group. Well, it clean slipped my mind, and I was out washing the car of all things when the appointment came and went. We only have the one car, so wife couldn't go without me. I came home and was hit with both barrels -- all the baggage from 20 years came out: "you always hated her", "you just don't care", "well now you've got things your way you're happy to just forget she ever existed", and so on. Well, yeah, I did forget, and I am happy to be free of the continuous drama. I fired back with "it's called detachment"; response: "oh yeah, you're [B][I]very good[/I][/B] at that, aren't you? You didn't give birth to her and know her for the first nine years, [true enough] so it's easy for you [not true]". I was at fault for forgetting, but then again I was the one who went through utter hell that night four weeks ago getting difficult child to the crisis center (cops, ambulance, the whole nine yards) which gave her the chance to get in this program in the first place. And I have been through the whole time since difficult child's behaviors began, 15 or 16 years now, right there alongside wife, so I don't feel like I'm such a big heel as all that. Anyhow, relations in the HWGA house have been frosty for several days. But this too shall pass. I did apologize profusely for forgetting the appointment. I also suggested a families anon. meeting, but she "knows all that c**p already" and "already knows she is too involved but she can't just 'give up'". [PS - witz, I just noticed the quote in your signature and it cracked me up.] [/QUOTE]
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