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difficult child in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) gets another 2 week freeze
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<blockquote data-quote="wheredidmylittleguygo" data-source="post: 23133" data-attributes="member: 3182"><p>Kris</p><p>The first 2 or 3 weeks he was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) I didn't even speak to him. I was so angry at him. It was best for both of us if I didn't speak with him at that time. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff surely thought I was cruel but I think it may have scared difficult child into realizing that I don't have to be a part of his life. I get to make a choice whether or not to interact with him. The same way he makes a choice about how to interact with me. I'm not sure if this was the right or wrong thing to do but I felt toxic towards him and I needed both the space and the break.</p><p></p><p>The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) place limits his phone calls to 2 or 3 times a week and the calls are only 5 minutes. If he begins to manipulate or threaten I report it to his sw and the calls are then monitored so the staff can address his actions immediately. We haven't had to go that far yet but the option is there should he continue to play these games. </p><p></p><p>As far as visits go when he's on a freeze like he is now I visit him on Sunday for about an hour. I leave time so we can visit as long as he wants but difficult child usually keeps it short and initiates the end of the visit. When he's not on a freeze he's allowed a 24 hour pass & we split the time with-his dad @ difficult child's request. This weekend should have been his first 48 hour weekend pass. The plan was to spend a day with-me and a day with-dad. </p><p></p><p>This was the first time Residential Treatment Center (RTC) called me to come up to the facility when he was in trouble. Last time they gave him a freeze and just called to tell me. Do you think that's part of the plan? Are they perhaps getting me involved in the handing out of consequences so that difficult child will conform to me as well as to them? Either way you're right he played it to his interest and really wanted to manipulate the situation. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wheredidmylittleguygo, post: 23133, member: 3182"] Kris The first 2 or 3 weeks he was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) I didn't even speak to him. I was so angry at him. It was best for both of us if I didn't speak with him at that time. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) staff surely thought I was cruel but I think it may have scared difficult child into realizing that I don't have to be a part of his life. I get to make a choice whether or not to interact with him. The same way he makes a choice about how to interact with me. I'm not sure if this was the right or wrong thing to do but I felt toxic towards him and I needed both the space and the break. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) place limits his phone calls to 2 or 3 times a week and the calls are only 5 minutes. If he begins to manipulate or threaten I report it to his sw and the calls are then monitored so the staff can address his actions immediately. We haven't had to go that far yet but the option is there should he continue to play these games. As far as visits go when he's on a freeze like he is now I visit him on Sunday for about an hour. I leave time so we can visit as long as he wants but difficult child usually keeps it short and initiates the end of the visit. When he's not on a freeze he's allowed a 24 hour pass & we split the time with-his dad @ difficult child's request. This weekend should have been his first 48 hour weekend pass. The plan was to spend a day with-me and a day with-dad. This was the first time Residential Treatment Center (RTC) called me to come up to the facility when he was in trouble. Last time they gave him a freeze and just called to tell me. Do you think that's part of the plan? Are they perhaps getting me involved in the handing out of consequences so that difficult child will conform to me as well as to them? Either way you're right he played it to his interest and really wanted to manipulate the situation. Thanks for listening. [/QUOTE]
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