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<blockquote data-quote="Where Did I Go Wrong" data-source="post: 631179" data-attributes="member: 18151"><p>Thank you so much Childofmine for pointing out how strong Lacey has been all her life and I pray she is still strong enough to come back to me... I know you are 100% correct and especially the part about how hard it is to do what you know is the right thing. I tried to chat with her on Facebook and she wouldn't respond and it's been a month that she's been gone and I'm afraid that she is sinking deeper into a bad situation. I found out last night she went to her stepbrother for money for a bus ticket to get home and he gave it to her. Then he figured out she didn't go anywhere so he's upset because she lied to him too. I had warned him ahead of time - I told him he could take her to the bus and buy her a ticket and I would pay him back, now he knows why I said don't give her cash. I'm having a bad day today, missing her (grieving for her) and my hubby is sitting here watching Cops - and they keep arresting people on drugs. Just seems everything I do today reminds me of her. </p><p>I did buy some books - Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children (Six Steps etc.), When Our GROWN Kids Disappoint Us (Letting Go of Their Problems etc...) and Detachment and Enabling. I found it hard to imagine doing some of the things recommended in Detachment and Enabling because they are totally opposite of how I dealt with issues at work for 40 years. I reacted to issues by not pointing fingers at anyone who made bad decisions or mistakes but by first asking myself what I can do to step in, they what can we do together to fix it. The book is telling me not to think of how I can fix it but think about how I want things to turn out for me. This is going to take SUCH a long time!!!</p><p></p><p><<<Reciting I will survive, I will be strong, I will be better>>></p><p>Thanks again for letting me vent.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Where Did I Go Wrong, post: 631179, member: 18151"] Thank you so much Childofmine for pointing out how strong Lacey has been all her life and I pray she is still strong enough to come back to me... I know you are 100% correct and especially the part about how hard it is to do what you know is the right thing. I tried to chat with her on Facebook and she wouldn't respond and it's been a month that she's been gone and I'm afraid that she is sinking deeper into a bad situation. I found out last night she went to her stepbrother for money for a bus ticket to get home and he gave it to her. Then he figured out she didn't go anywhere so he's upset because she lied to him too. I had warned him ahead of time - I told him he could take her to the bus and buy her a ticket and I would pay him back, now he knows why I said don't give her cash. I'm having a bad day today, missing her (grieving for her) and my hubby is sitting here watching Cops - and they keep arresting people on drugs. Just seems everything I do today reminds me of her. I did buy some books - Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children (Six Steps etc.), When Our GROWN Kids Disappoint Us (Letting Go of Their Problems etc...) and Detachment and Enabling. I found it hard to imagine doing some of the things recommended in Detachment and Enabling because they are totally opposite of how I dealt with issues at work for 40 years. I reacted to issues by not pointing fingers at anyone who made bad decisions or mistakes but by first asking myself what I can do to step in, they what can we do together to fix it. The book is telling me not to think of how I can fix it but think about how I want things to turn out for me. This is going to take SUCH a long time!!! <<<Reciting I will survive, I will be strong, I will be better>>> Thanks again for letting me vent..... [/QUOTE]
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