difficult child is found.

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Abbey, Oct 19, 2009.

  1. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    As I suspected, he is back in a CA prison. I don't know for what, or for how long. I'm thinking he's been there for several months now. They wouldn't let me talk to him about his bio mom's death. That is not a good sign. They said they'd deliver the news. He's skated the 3 strike law in CA, but maybe not this time.

  2. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    I'm so sorry Abbey. :(
  3. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    I assume there is somewhere online you can look up his last offense and how long he has to serve, at least Indiana offers that, if you really want to know. I hate to say it, but I almost dread when my difficult child gets out, I will just have to start worrying about his next offense and when he will "darken" our door....... Sometimes I don't want to know what he is doing........
  4. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Aww geez. Darn.
  5. slsh

    slsh member since 1999

    Abbey - I'm so very sorry. What an all-around awful situation. So sorry....
  6. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry, Abbey.
  7. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Oh Abbs, I am sorry. I guess at least you know where he is. So horrible, just not a good place to hear that news.
  8. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    I am so sorry Abbers - I was hoping it would have been the other place. :( Hope h is taking it as good as you. I'm sure this is upsetting to him as well.

    My best guess is that it's a probation violations - most likely non-payment of fines and probation supervision- there is no recession reduction for anyone - which if you ask me is just redundant. California can't afford the ones they or any other place isn't working with people - and would rather put them in jail and support them. Makes NO sense to me whatsoever. :confused: If the fines went away FOR incarceration - that would be one thing but here in SC ? They're still there when you get out. DUH.

  9. donna723

    donna723 Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry too Abbey.

    But please don't take it as a bad sign that they wouldn't let you talk to him. That's just standard procedure for a prison - we don't EVER take a call to be transferred directly to an inmate and I seriously doubt if any prison does. In a case like this we would transfer the call to the Chaplain and he would deliver the message to the inmate. Or if the Chaplain wasn't there, the call would go to the inmates' counselor and he or she would talk to the inmate. It's a security thing. Of course, he could call you later himself, but telephone procedures would sometimes keep that from happening right away.
  10. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Many, many hugs. I am so sorry. Peace and strength are being sent your way.
  11. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    Donna, his counselor is on vacation this week. Good timing. I'll call back tomorrow and ask about the chaplain.

    I don't know what difference it makes. He won't be able to attend any services anyways. Blah.

  12. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Oh, Abbey I'm so sorry. Not the greatest place to get the news by far.

  13. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    I'm sorry, Ab. Very, very sorry.
  14. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

  15. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    I have no words just hugs. -RM
  16. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry, Abbey, for your loss and for his.
  17. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    I am sorry to hear this, Abbey