dashcat
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and I am flipping out.
She has met him in person only once. On Friday. She took DEX's car telling us both that she was going with a girlfriend to the mall. I had plans and needed my car. When she picked up his car, he made the mistake of telling her he was staying with his girlfriend in a hotel that night (they were going to be drinking and didn't want to drive). He invited her and "N" to watch a movie if they wished on his home theater.
She picked up P (internet dude) 60 miles away and took him back to h er dad's She texted me that she was there with N and was spending the night. I didn't question it because I didn't know DEX wasn't there.
It all came crashing down when we started comparing notes and he checked his GPS.
I've not handled it well - through out all my detachment 101 skills and confronted her.
She makes $7.30 an hour and works about 30 hours a week. She has no car and about $2,000 in savings (that she cannot access right now). P doesn't have a job or a car.
I'm scared to death. She says she knows what she is doing is not rational and says she doesn't wan t to live by "the rules of the world".
Her plan is to have N driver her to pick up P. Then she and P are going to DEX's to ask if they can live with him. I have no idea what he'll do. Sometimes he's rational (DEX) and sometimes not. The last time she ran off with an internet dude he told me - in FRONT of her - that she'd done nothing wrong. Still, he's not happy about her lying and bringing this guy back to his place. I pray he says no, but I have no control.
The alternatives (her staying with N and P and/or who knows what?) are not good. I fear, by my begging her to go to counseling and by telling her I was afraid she was doing something dangerous, I may have closed the door on her turning to me if she needs me.
I could cut off her cell phone, but I'm afraid she might be in danger. I will not give her money or let her use my car.
I'm scared and I'm crying my eyes out.
Dash
She has met him in person only once. On Friday. She took DEX's car telling us both that she was going with a girlfriend to the mall. I had plans and needed my car. When she picked up his car, he made the mistake of telling her he was staying with his girlfriend in a hotel that night (they were going to be drinking and didn't want to drive). He invited her and "N" to watch a movie if they wished on his home theater.
She picked up P (internet dude) 60 miles away and took him back to h er dad's She texted me that she was there with N and was spending the night. I didn't question it because I didn't know DEX wasn't there.
It all came crashing down when we started comparing notes and he checked his GPS.
I've not handled it well - through out all my detachment 101 skills and confronted her.
She makes $7.30 an hour and works about 30 hours a week. She has no car and about $2,000 in savings (that she cannot access right now). P doesn't have a job or a car.
I'm scared to death. She says she knows what she is doing is not rational and says she doesn't wan t to live by "the rules of the world".
Her plan is to have N driver her to pick up P. Then she and P are going to DEX's to ask if they can live with him. I have no idea what he'll do. Sometimes he's rational (DEX) and sometimes not. The last time she ran off with an internet dude he told me - in FRONT of her - that she'd done nothing wrong. Still, he's not happy about her lying and bringing this guy back to his place. I pray he says no, but I have no control.
The alternatives (her staying with N and P and/or who knows what?) are not good. I fear, by my begging her to go to counseling and by telling her I was afraid she was doing something dangerous, I may have closed the door on her turning to me if she needs me.
I could cut off her cell phone, but I'm afraid she might be in danger. I will not give her money or let her use my car.
I'm scared and I'm crying my eyes out.
Dash
