it's been a really long time since my last post. i guess i was naive enough to think that things were getting better. now it looks like he might leave us- best case:30 days. worst case: 2 years. as a quick reminder, my nephew was adopted by a single parent (my brother) 6 years ago. difficult child has physical and sexual abuse issues from his "natural" home and the foster homes (5) he was placed in. the lying, defiance and disrespect were still there, but i SWEAR he was starting to get better. at least it seemed that he was, for once, trying. found out that he was selling his adderall to a friend. then we just found out that not only did he steal his grandmother's truck AGAIN (this may be the 4th time?) he also was caught on video stealing $$$ from his father's ATM account. at 15 years old, he's on a path to self destruction. he doesn't seem to be affected- no remorse, no accountability. his respinse was,"what's the big deal? no one was hurt." my brother took difficult child to the police station where he admitted taking the car and stealing the $$$. The police and a juvey office explained that he will go before the juvenile judge and he will decide the outcome. so, it's either a juvey camp called "camp adams" or a school in philly until he's 18. 6-8 weeks and we'll have the answer. my brother is trying to get difficult child into a facility in Lancaster that specializes in EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing)therapy. but we'll have to wait 6-8 weeks to start that. does anyone have experience with this process? i'm ashamed to admit this... this is so unbelievably hard that i'm almost ready to give up. thanks for your time and any advice.