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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 252609" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Thank you Susie!</p><p> </p><p>We have cut out two days per week tutoring and one day per week trumpet so are down to one day per week bowling. That has helped a lot!</p><p> </p><p>Taking him bowling today was a tough decision for me. I was going back and forth of if I should or shouldn't. He has lived for bowling lately and it is a good self esteem lifter for him. He knew if he came home from school there was a chance he couldn't go bowling. That stress in itself may have contributed to the level of pain in the migraine.</p><p> </p><p>Migranes are nasty and once they are over with life can go on. If he was sent home with anything else (flu/cold/fever/whatever) there would be no question of keeping him home. However, I could tell he was much better by 3:00. For him, he has to know that we work through being sick. Everyone gets sick but they also get better. I think keeping him home would have been discouraging for him the next time he gets a migrane. He may think, "Well there goes the rest of the day, why bother?" I want him to take the right steps to get better and then back into the schedule. Know what I mean?? Hope that makes sense. </p><p> </p><p>Like you, I believe in a case by case evaluation of how to treat the rest of the day's schedule. Now, if there starts to be a history of missing school we would have to revisit what is going on and maybe taking away fun activities will have to be.</p><p> </p><p>He now states that maybe he had a panic attack because he couldn't call me. I do believe the migrane was there and it was possible it contributed to a panic attack which would explain the lump in his throat feeling.</p><p> </p><p>He is recognizing his need to catch up on sleep and has put himself to bed early tonight. There is hope for him! This gives us a great opportunity to discuss his NYC fears. You know, it is hard to bring this up when there is no issues - "Umm, difficult child, just in case you get scared ......." Introducing the possibility of a fear to an anxiety driven person is tricky. They jump to the conclusion that the bad thing will happen. Now I can say, "difficult child, if this happens in NYC, what should you do?" I am also talking alot about how homesickness is normal and nothing to fear. If he expects it, it may not be so bad? It also usually happens mainly at bed time. I think he will be as prepared as possible.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 252609, member: 5096"] Thank you Susie! We have cut out two days per week tutoring and one day per week trumpet so are down to one day per week bowling. That has helped a lot! Taking him bowling today was a tough decision for me. I was going back and forth of if I should or shouldn't. He has lived for bowling lately and it is a good self esteem lifter for him. He knew if he came home from school there was a chance he couldn't go bowling. That stress in itself may have contributed to the level of pain in the migraine. Migranes are nasty and once they are over with life can go on. If he was sent home with anything else (flu/cold/fever/whatever) there would be no question of keeping him home. However, I could tell he was much better by 3:00. For him, he has to know that we work through being sick. Everyone gets sick but they also get better. I think keeping him home would have been discouraging for him the next time he gets a migrane. He may think, "Well there goes the rest of the day, why bother?" I want him to take the right steps to get better and then back into the schedule. Know what I mean?? Hope that makes sense. Like you, I believe in a case by case evaluation of how to treat the rest of the day's schedule. Now, if there starts to be a history of missing school we would have to revisit what is going on and maybe taking away fun activities will have to be. He now states that maybe he had a panic attack because he couldn't call me. I do believe the migrane was there and it was possible it contributed to a panic attack which would explain the lump in his throat feeling. He is recognizing his need to catch up on sleep and has put himself to bed early tonight. There is hope for him! This gives us a great opportunity to discuss his NYC fears. You know, it is hard to bring this up when there is no issues - "Umm, difficult child, just in case you get scared ......." Introducing the possibility of a fear to an anxiety driven person is tricky. They jump to the conclusion that the bad thing will happen. Now I can say, "difficult child, if this happens in NYC, what should you do?" I am also talking alot about how homesickness is normal and nothing to fear. If he expects it, it may not be so bad? It also usually happens mainly at bed time. I think he will be as prepared as possible. [/QUOTE]
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