JKF
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Everything has to be his way or no way! It's so frustrating! He hates the temp shelter and wants out bc he hates their rules and they're "mean" to him. He said the staff allows everyone privileges except him. He's also having a problem bc he's exhausted from the lithium and thirsty and it's dry in there etc. Ugggh!
So anyway, the rule at the shelter is that residents have to be in no later than 5 if they want to spend the night. They make exceptions for certain residents if there is an emergency or something they need to do after 5 pm but in general they're pretty strict about the curfew.
Well difficult child just called complaining about that bc supposedly his friend "just got hit by a car" and he wanted to go to the hospital to see him. I said "what hospital"? He said he didn't know. I said "ok so how did you find out about this"? He said the kid's mom called him. Uhhhh I said "HOW did she call you if you have no phone"? He said oh right - she messaged me on FB. Then he starts going into this rant about how the staff won't let him go to the hospital to see his friend and they would only bend the rule if they could call to confirm the story is real - which it is obviously NOT!!! He's nuts if he thinks anyone is going to believe that a kid he used to be in a group home with but has sporadic contact at best with now "just" got hit by a car and the kid's mom called difficult child on his nonexistent phone to tell him to come to the hospital, but who knows which one, ASAP. Really!!??!!?!?
He then started going off about how he doesn't have to stay there if he doesn't want to. I calmly told him -"you know what difficult child? You're right! You don't HAVE to stay there but it might be a good idea if you do since you have NOWHERE else to go. It's also freezing out and we are expecting about 5 inches of snow. If you chose to leave fine but don't show up here bc there will be a huge problem if you do. Please call me tomorrow and let me know what decision you made so I can contact the MH worker and let her know where you are." And then I hung up.
And guess what? I'm CALM. Just disgusted with his behavior but I'm not panicking or paralyzed with fear. You know why? Because I KNOW I have been doing everything I can to help him and if he can't follow some basic rules in order to have a place to sleep than that's on him!
So anyway, the rule at the shelter is that residents have to be in no later than 5 if they want to spend the night. They make exceptions for certain residents if there is an emergency or something they need to do after 5 pm but in general they're pretty strict about the curfew.
Well difficult child just called complaining about that bc supposedly his friend "just got hit by a car" and he wanted to go to the hospital to see him. I said "what hospital"? He said he didn't know. I said "ok so how did you find out about this"? He said the kid's mom called him. Uhhhh I said "HOW did she call you if you have no phone"? He said oh right - she messaged me on FB. Then he starts going into this rant about how the staff won't let him go to the hospital to see his friend and they would only bend the rule if they could call to confirm the story is real - which it is obviously NOT!!! He's nuts if he thinks anyone is going to believe that a kid he used to be in a group home with but has sporadic contact at best with now "just" got hit by a car and the kid's mom called difficult child on his nonexistent phone to tell him to come to the hospital, but who knows which one, ASAP. Really!!??!!?!?
He then started going off about how he doesn't have to stay there if he doesn't want to. I calmly told him -"you know what difficult child? You're right! You don't HAVE to stay there but it might be a good idea if you do since you have NOWHERE else to go. It's also freezing out and we are expecting about 5 inches of snow. If you chose to leave fine but don't show up here bc there will be a huge problem if you do. Please call me tomorrow and let me know what decision you made so I can contact the MH worker and let her know where you are." And then I hung up.
And guess what? I'm CALM. Just disgusted with his behavior but I'm not panicking or paralyzed with fear. You know why? Because I KNOW I have been doing everything I can to help him and if he can't follow some basic rules in order to have a place to sleep than that's on him!