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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 507236" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm glad the two of you got to talk and it is reassuring "a bit" that facility staff is discreetly communicating with you and with difficult child. Obviously there is no way any of them can afford to put their jobs in jeopardy but they are "watching" the situation unfold and that is a comfort. Also it's important to keep in mind that PO and his supervisor are concerned about their job security since their feet are being held to the fire. That's the bad side of advocacy, sigh. It's a precarious balance of action choices.</p><p></p><p>My suggestion is to not pursue your letter writing etc. for awhile. Give them time to formulate their plan. Yes, I know they should have done so before this <strong>but </strong>they didn't. Although it seems life a very long time since this current issue came into view (and I'm sure that it seems life a lifetime to difficult child) it really has been only a few work days for them. They had a plan, the plan did not pan out, they fell back and regrouped and they "know" they are under the magnifying glass. I have given this alot of thought and I think that it is not in the best interests of your difficult child to take any new actions until you actually have a plan to review or excessive time passes with-o any communication from them. The goal is to get an acceptable plan for difficult child and in my opinion his best chance for a workable plan is if you ease up and see what they come up with. Right now there is alot of conjecture. Soon (and I hope very soon) you will know...and maybe it will be reasonable...specifically what option is proposed.</p><p></p><p>On a lighter note (while truly understanding this is not a "lite" subject) I thought of an analogy that might help difficult child cope with the delays. I'm assuming he is not only disappointed but may be getting flack from his peers to boot. Tossing this out just as food for thought. Perhaps when you speak to him you might encourage him to think of this time span as "Occupational Therapist (OT)". Football teams often think they have a game won and then in the last seconds the game becomes a tie. Then, of course, they have to reach down for emotional/physical reserves to finish the game. There is a similarity in his life. It is unexpected and the specific outcome unknown but he can adapt, avoid all conflicts and believe he will come out a winner. </p><p></p><p>As always, with caring, DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 507236, member: 35"] I'm glad the two of you got to talk and it is reassuring "a bit" that facility staff is discreetly communicating with you and with difficult child. Obviously there is no way any of them can afford to put their jobs in jeopardy but they are "watching" the situation unfold and that is a comfort. Also it's important to keep in mind that PO and his supervisor are concerned about their job security since their feet are being held to the fire. That's the bad side of advocacy, sigh. It's a precarious balance of action choices. My suggestion is to not pursue your letter writing etc. for awhile. Give them time to formulate their plan. Yes, I know they should have done so before this [B]but [/B]they didn't. Although it seems life a very long time since this current issue came into view (and I'm sure that it seems life a lifetime to difficult child) it really has been only a few work days for them. They had a plan, the plan did not pan out, they fell back and regrouped and they "know" they are under the magnifying glass. I have given this alot of thought and I think that it is not in the best interests of your difficult child to take any new actions until you actually have a plan to review or excessive time passes with-o any communication from them. The goal is to get an acceptable plan for difficult child and in my opinion his best chance for a workable plan is if you ease up and see what they come up with. Right now there is alot of conjecture. Soon (and I hope very soon) you will know...and maybe it will be reasonable...specifically what option is proposed. On a lighter note (while truly understanding this is not a "lite" subject) I thought of an analogy that might help difficult child cope with the delays. I'm assuming he is not only disappointed but may be getting flack from his peers to boot. Tossing this out just as food for thought. Perhaps when you speak to him you might encourage him to think of this time span as "Occupational Therapist (OT)". Football teams often think they have a game won and then in the last seconds the game becomes a tie. Then, of course, they have to reach down for emotional/physical reserves to finish the game. There is a similarity in his life. It is unexpected and the specific outcome unknown but he can adapt, avoid all conflicts and believe he will come out a winner. As always, with caring, DDD [/QUOTE]
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