mstang67chic
Going Green
I swear, this kid has me at the end of my rope. Ilovemyson called me tonight and asked how he was doing. I laughed.
In the past few weeks we have received 2-3 discipline referral forms A WEEK from the school. Today I got two. He repeatedly comes to class without supplies or his book, skips a class here or there if he feels like it, leaves campus during lunch, blah blah blah blah blah. Today's slips just make you want to slap your forhead. (or his) #1 (dated 4/24) reads: "difficult child asked my sub for a pass to resource. Because of difficult child's recent trend of truancies, I decided to check with Resource. He did not sign in and no one saw him down there. When I asked him about it today, he said he was hungry so he went to get something to eat." Because of this offense, he will be removed from that class and will do it on nova net.
Slip #2 (dated 4/25 and for the same class) reads: difficult child failed to bring his book today and asked if he could go to ISS. I told him no but I would let him borrow a book. The then refused to come get a book. He told me he is just going to take nova net, so he's not going to do anything in here. Can he be removed from my class? Grade = 25%. Third referral in last week, 2 truancies."
Also today, I got a call from one of the vice principals. Seems that difficult child dropped the f bomb in one of his classes, directed towards the teacher no less.
Half the time, his excuse is that he's 18 (leaving campus, going to get something to eat instead of going to class) and he can do what he wants.
I didn't even bother bringing up the referral slips I got today. There's absolutely no point. The school is doing their discipline and honestly, there's nothing (absolutely nothing) I can do to him that works. He has a suspension tomorrow for the f bomb but he'll just sleep all day unless I take him to the youth services bureau for the day. And I can just imagine what kind of pleasant morning THAT would be, not to mention his attitude while there.
He really ticked husband off a few weeks ago and has now been told that he WILL be out of the house at the end of the school year. Of course since then, husband has told me privately that he doesn't want to make him leave if difficult child doesn't have someplace to go.
I'm so done. He won't do ANYTHING. He was told a few days ago that it was his turn to do dishes. (He hasn't done them in weeks.) Since it had been a few days, there were quite a few to be done. He was finished in 15 minutes. Of course I go check them and they were nasty. Plates that still had food and grease on them, glasses with dried milk in the bottom, anything that was clean still had suds all over. Then when I was on the phone with Ilovemyson, I get into my pan cabinet and discovered a really lovely situation. I have a couple of those splatter guards for skillets. One of them was lying on clean pans and just DRIPPING oil. I doubt that thing had even come into contact with water, let alone soap.
As I type this, he's been home for just under 5 hours. With the exception of one bathroom run, the dishes, and fixing his dinner plate, he's been in his room the entire time. Now that I think about it though, I don't care. That's just less time that I have to deal with him.
I'm just fed up, frustrated, stressed and done. I talked to a person at the school to set up a conference regarding his behavior at school lately. I laughed at the thought. What in the name of all that's shiny is that going to accomplish??? Don't they know? He's 18...he doesn't have to do anything.
In the past few weeks we have received 2-3 discipline referral forms A WEEK from the school. Today I got two. He repeatedly comes to class without supplies or his book, skips a class here or there if he feels like it, leaves campus during lunch, blah blah blah blah blah. Today's slips just make you want to slap your forhead. (or his) #1 (dated 4/24) reads: "difficult child asked my sub for a pass to resource. Because of difficult child's recent trend of truancies, I decided to check with Resource. He did not sign in and no one saw him down there. When I asked him about it today, he said he was hungry so he went to get something to eat." Because of this offense, he will be removed from that class and will do it on nova net.
Slip #2 (dated 4/25 and for the same class) reads: difficult child failed to bring his book today and asked if he could go to ISS. I told him no but I would let him borrow a book. The then refused to come get a book. He told me he is just going to take nova net, so he's not going to do anything in here. Can he be removed from my class? Grade = 25%. Third referral in last week, 2 truancies."
Also today, I got a call from one of the vice principals. Seems that difficult child dropped the f bomb in one of his classes, directed towards the teacher no less.
Half the time, his excuse is that he's 18 (leaving campus, going to get something to eat instead of going to class) and he can do what he wants.
I didn't even bother bringing up the referral slips I got today. There's absolutely no point. The school is doing their discipline and honestly, there's nothing (absolutely nothing) I can do to him that works. He has a suspension tomorrow for the f bomb but he'll just sleep all day unless I take him to the youth services bureau for the day. And I can just imagine what kind of pleasant morning THAT would be, not to mention his attitude while there.
He really ticked husband off a few weeks ago and has now been told that he WILL be out of the house at the end of the school year. Of course since then, husband has told me privately that he doesn't want to make him leave if difficult child doesn't have someplace to go.
I'm so done. He won't do ANYTHING. He was told a few days ago that it was his turn to do dishes. (He hasn't done them in weeks.) Since it had been a few days, there were quite a few to be done. He was finished in 15 minutes. Of course I go check them and they were nasty. Plates that still had food and grease on them, glasses with dried milk in the bottom, anything that was clean still had suds all over. Then when I was on the phone with Ilovemyson, I get into my pan cabinet and discovered a really lovely situation. I have a couple of those splatter guards for skillets. One of them was lying on clean pans and just DRIPPING oil. I doubt that thing had even come into contact with water, let alone soap.
As I type this, he's been home for just under 5 hours. With the exception of one bathroom run, the dishes, and fixing his dinner plate, he's been in his room the entire time. Now that I think about it though, I don't care. That's just less time that I have to deal with him.
I'm just fed up, frustrated, stressed and done. I talked to a person at the school to set up a conference regarding his behavior at school lately. I laughed at the thought. What in the name of all that's shiny is that going to accomplish??? Don't they know? He's 18...he doesn't have to do anything.
Your difficult child is probably a lot like mine. He had a lot of big talk about how much he didn't need us and all the wonderful gadgets, cars, toys and apartments he was going to have when he was 18, and he didn't have a plan. But the day we kicked him out, he found a place to stay. He didn't go hungry. He found a series of gullible people to take our place. It took him 3 years to burn through them all, because they were all people who were new to him and didn't know what they were getting themselves into. 
) is like HE77 on earth!!! difficult child 1 is similar to your difficult child is some ways. difficult child 1 has absolutely NO sense of responsibility!!! husband and I spoon feed difficult child 1 the tools he needs to live independently. He knows he needs to move out when he graduates from high school. Unfortunately, he doesn't seem to care about anything except gaming. Believe me, next Spring can't come soon enough!!! I've absolutely had it with him
