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difficult child managed to overstay her welcome....again....
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 390695" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is likely she is going to have to be homeless for a while and live that way before she is willing to make any changes. There is very little chance that she will change significantly before she hits her personal bottom, if she ever hits it. Finding places for her to stay is unlikely to move her toward changing her life. She wants to drug and do what she wants with-o doing anything to care for herself or provide for herself. At some point, regardless of where she lives, she will find herself out of "fun" options and people to support her. That is the point where she MAY start to realize that she has to change. It will likely be a long time before rehab will work for her. She still thinks she is invincible and you are a complete and total idiot who hasn'nt got a clue as to how the world works.</p><p> </p><p>She has found drugs and places to use them in her current state. No matter where she lives she will be able to find drugs. They are everywhere. Have you gone to alanon or narcanon yet? Did you just go one or two times or are you going on a regular basis? You need to go regularly, as often as you possibly can. You will learn how to use the tools to help yourself during this time and you will learn that it is okay to let difficult child reap the natural consequences of her actions. Have you checked out all the books and things on the Love and Logic site? I don't know if they have anything specifically targetted to your situation, but many of their techniques could be useful. The site is <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> . If you write to them, or email, they will be able to give you ideas and some guidance to tools that may help.</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this. I hope you love the dog. in my opinion the natural consequences of her actions/behavior would have the dog going to the shelter when difficult child wouldn't or couldn't care for it. Esp as she has refused to potty train it. Taking the dog home with you is really nice, esp to the poor dog who is innocent in this except for the elimination issues. I doubt anyoen would fault you if you didn't take the dog, but it is very sweet that you are willing to. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs. It is terribly hard to watch helplessly as they destroy their lives, their futures, their minds and bodies, and most especially their hearts and psyches as they do all these incredibly stupid things that they are dead set on doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 390695, member: 1233"] It is likely she is going to have to be homeless for a while and live that way before she is willing to make any changes. There is very little chance that she will change significantly before she hits her personal bottom, if she ever hits it. Finding places for her to stay is unlikely to move her toward changing her life. She wants to drug and do what she wants with-o doing anything to care for herself or provide for herself. At some point, regardless of where she lives, she will find herself out of "fun" options and people to support her. That is the point where she MAY start to realize that she has to change. It will likely be a long time before rehab will work for her. She still thinks she is invincible and you are a complete and total idiot who hasn'nt got a clue as to how the world works. She has found drugs and places to use them in her current state. No matter where she lives she will be able to find drugs. They are everywhere. Have you gone to alanon or narcanon yet? Did you just go one or two times or are you going on a regular basis? You need to go regularly, as often as you possibly can. You will learn how to use the tools to help yourself during this time and you will learn that it is okay to let difficult child reap the natural consequences of her actions. Have you checked out all the books and things on the Love and Logic site? I don't know if they have anything specifically targetted to your situation, but many of their techniques could be useful. The site is [URL="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]www.loveandlogic.com[/URL] . If you write to them, or email, they will be able to give you ideas and some guidance to tools that may help. I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this. I hope you love the dog. in my opinion the natural consequences of her actions/behavior would have the dog going to the shelter when difficult child wouldn't or couldn't care for it. Esp as she has refused to potty train it. Taking the dog home with you is really nice, esp to the poor dog who is innocent in this except for the elimination issues. I doubt anyoen would fault you if you didn't take the dog, but it is very sweet that you are willing to. Hugs. It is terribly hard to watch helplessly as they destroy their lives, their futures, their minds and bodies, and most especially their hearts and psyches as they do all these incredibly stupid things that they are dead set on doing. [/QUOTE]
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