After difficult child got kicked out of the sober house last week she moved into an apartment with a friend she met at AA. It's in a decent area and it's one of those old buildings with big rooms and steam heat, like you would imagine would be the kind of apartment college kids would rent. husband took her to the Brown's game today and picked her up so he could check out the apartment. He even looked in the fridge, no alcohol, whew!
Her roommate has been sober a year, or so difficult child says. But I did check her out on fb and she seems like a very nice person with very nice friends, all in college or good jobs. She posted on her fb that god put someone in front of her that needed a place to stay and she was glad to help.
She wanted her queen size bedroom set but we said no so she has been sleeping on an air mattress. I felt bad about that but I'm not willing to see her furniture on the curb if she leaves. She called tonight to say one of her friends, a sponsor in AA who tries to help people in recovery get started, took her to big lots and bought her a mattress and asked if I had some sheets. I told her she could come and get what I had and also I have a bedframe and some things in the basement she can have. If she established herself for a decent period of time and keeps her job we will give her her furniture then.
She starts her new job Tuesday. She told husband she was not going to screw this job up and she was going to make it.
This is the closest difficult child has been to being independent ever. While I wish I could rush in and help her get established I can't. I have to let her do this on her own, knowing she is starting with nothing and a far cry from where she came from. It is humbling but a good reminder to her. She has had so many chances and managed to mess them all up so I am trying not to get too hopeful. It does look like she has some good people around her who want her to make it. She is still sober from what we can determine and she is respectful to us.
Nancy
Her roommate has been sober a year, or so difficult child says. But I did check her out on fb and she seems like a very nice person with very nice friends, all in college or good jobs. She posted on her fb that god put someone in front of her that needed a place to stay and she was glad to help.
She wanted her queen size bedroom set but we said no so she has been sleeping on an air mattress. I felt bad about that but I'm not willing to see her furniture on the curb if she leaves. She called tonight to say one of her friends, a sponsor in AA who tries to help people in recovery get started, took her to big lots and bought her a mattress and asked if I had some sheets. I told her she could come and get what I had and also I have a bedframe and some things in the basement she can have. If she established herself for a decent period of time and keeps her job we will give her her furniture then.
She starts her new job Tuesday. She told husband she was not going to screw this job up and she was going to make it.
This is the closest difficult child has been to being independent ever. While I wish I could rush in and help her get established I can't. I have to let her do this on her own, knowing she is starting with nothing and a far cry from where she came from. It is humbling but a good reminder to her. She has had so many chances and managed to mess them all up so I am trying not to get too hopeful. It does look like she has some good people around her who want her to make it. She is still sober from what we can determine and she is respectful to us.
Nancy